Heh.

[wight1984]

roykay and donnalee_kiss become friends so they can be callous bastards together.

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[cinema_babe]

Is that creepy fucker trolling for another notch on his belt. Eeeeww, they both make me sick.

[roykay]

'Tis a vain and futile attempt to make up for cinema_babe RUINING MY LIFE AND SENDING ME INTO ETERNAL ANGST by not being one o' them thar notches.

...breaks into woeful song...

I got a right to sing the blues.
I got aright to moan and sigh.
I got a right to sit and cry
down along the riiiiiiiiiiiiiiii-ver...

[tisiphone]

Personally, I like it when assholes form networks. It makes them easier to identify.

[donnaidh_sidhe]

No kidding! I've actually hoped for the more damaging people I know to get together just so they turn their attention to each other and not to the hapless folks who just take it...but then my empathy kicks in and I realize that's not very kind of me. And then my logic kicks in and I realize that people like that can't really prey on others like them, so it'll never sustain itself.

[vvvexation]

See, this is what you get when you have logic and empathy. Oh, wait....

[meganeko_mausuu]

I'm kind of hoping for something similar... not so much that they'll prey on each other, but that they'll spend so much time being each others' flattering living mirror, and preening at each other about how evolved they are, that they forget the rest of us exist, and never come back.

[vvvexation]

I get the impression they don't quite know what empathy even is.

[tisiphone]

Of course they know what it is. It is an emotional capability that is best demonstrated by being nice to them, personally. Its lack is demonstrated by disagreeing with them.

[vvvexation]

Seriously, "empathy = agreement" (or at least "empathy -> agreement") is the only premise I can think of that makes the idea that we lack empathy for them make sense.

[donnaidh_sidhe]

Oh god. I just realized that this is quite possibly what my ex thought at his deepest core.

[moiracoon]

But is their callous bastardhood a mono or poly relationship? We need to define it, so that we can know what emotions and ethics should be applied to our reaction.

/snark

[tantricaquarian]

I always find this the most amazing thing - poly and mono relationships just *are* - relationship dynamics of love, jealousy, passion, trust, empathy - etc. - are pretty much across the board the same; we're all part of the human experience, regardless of if we express our love in a lifelong vanilla marriage to one person or a kinkster-dream-orgy-poly-group-communal-nudist home somewhere off on a tropical island.

I think the basic emotions of love, of wanting to feel needed, of needing... are pretty basic for most of us.

Hence empathy usually develops without much issue.

At least, one hopes.

[tantricaquarian]

I was rather surprised to see such a Shitstorm develop out of that whole (what, 5 lines of text?) post. It sounded like a young person asking a rather vapid question along the lines of, "Do I have a unique-snowflake style of seeing the universe that places me ahead of others?"

I'd probably give the following answer to the original post:

Your feelings about your parents separating are valid; and so are his. People are different - perhaps the breakup was very painful to him. Even so, it may (or may not) have been the right thing to do.

I think the "callous bastard" attitude comes out when a person realizes that they asked a somewhat stupid question and they try to save face; but end up digging themselves deeper...

[cinema_babe]

The scary thing is, she's not a kid, she's about 45 which , while it's not old (says the 46 year old woman) is old enough to have a clue about how to slap a social face on whether you get the emotion someone else is feeling or not.