How do I get my husband to help?
Q: My husband is not helping with my daughter very often. I confront him about and he think he does a lot more then he actually does. I’m being patient here, but we actually have another baby coming, and I feel that I can't keep up at the pace I'm going and I think he's only being selfish and lazy.
A: What you should do is talk with your husband in a collaborative and non-confrontational way. Try explaining to him that with a second child on the way, more help will be called for. Empower him to make decisions. He can toss in some effort to child rearing in so many ways. He can contribute by helping more with the newborn. Maybe, since it’s his second child, he will feel more prepared and will not be scared of changing diapers or feeding a newborn.
A: What you should do is talk with your husband in a collaborative and non-confrontational way. Try explaining to him that with a second child on the way, more help will be called for. Empower him to make decisions. He can toss in some effort to child rearing in so many ways. He can contribute by helping more with the newborn. Maybe, since it’s his second child, he will feel more prepared and will not be scared of changing diapers or feeding a newborn.