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A friend came to me with this situation, and seeing as how I am the *last* person anyone should go to for relationship advice, I figured I would put it out to the ljverse; after all, a grotesque amount of heads is better than one.
He has two problems:
1. How to figure out if he is really in love, or if he's just not happy with where he is right now, and so is trying to recapture a crush.
Background: He falls hard for her in high school. She immediately pushes him into the friend zone. After graduation, he finds out that she (probably, as this came third-party) was into him too, but had a controlling and somewhat abusive boyfriend that she didn't want to get mad. They meet up again in college - two different schools, but practically in the same town. She's single, he's attached. She says she loves him, he (dipshit) says he's in love with someone else. Two years later, he's single, she's attached. Says she still loves him, but she loves her boy too. They lose touch with each other. He's mildly obsessed, but decides it's better not to track her down, and to get on with his life. A few years later, she pops back into his life. She's still attached, he's attached. She talks about how much she misses him... And so on. He can't stop thinking about her.
2. If 1=yes, then what?
He has two problems:
1. How to figure out if he is really in love, or if he's just not happy with where he is right now, and so is trying to recapture a crush.
Background: He falls hard for her in high school. She immediately pushes him into the friend zone. After graduation, he finds out that she (probably, as this came third-party) was into him too, but had a controlling and somewhat abusive boyfriend that she didn't want to get mad. They meet up again in college - two different schools, but practically in the same town. She's single, he's attached. She says she loves him, he (dipshit) says he's in love with someone else. Two years later, he's single, she's attached. Says she still loves him, but she loves her boy too. They lose touch with each other. He's mildly obsessed, but decides it's better not to track her down, and to get on with his life. A few years later, she pops back into his life. She's still attached, he's attached. She talks about how much she misses him... And so on. He can't stop thinking about her.
2. If 1=yes, then what?