The Other Family
My mom got an email today from my "Aunt" on my Dad's side of the family today and it got me thinking. My Dad's side of the family has always treated him like shit. (With the exception of my Uncle Aaron and his family). There is no other way to put it. Since childhood he has been verbally and emotionally abused by these people who think that they are better than the rest of the world. They have treated my mother like shit. Over the last few years I have been subjected to the abuse as well. Growing up my Dad's side of the family (from here on out referred to as the other family with the exception of Aaron) have done little to get to know me and my siblings. If my youngest siblings had seen them on the side of the road they would not have known who they were. Everything was all together a crappy situation.
Within the last year things have seemed to esculate. One of my "aunts" from the other family spread rumors about my mother stealing my Dad's passport and about me being pregnant (due to numerous doctor's visits that were in reality taking care of a cancerous condition). My father was ridiculed more than ever and they even did so in front of me. My "uncle" Dan treated me like shit and was constantly talking down to me and yelling at me. His form of making the situation better was to explain to me that even his stepson doesn't like him so I shouldn't take it personally. What type of person can be okay with people having such a hatred for them? What type of person can treat people so badly and think nothing of it?
The email my mother received today was from the worst of the "aunts", Marnie. It was asking my mother to meet with her to fix things. Keep in mind that this is the gossiping bitch who feels the need to make everyone else's life shitty to compensate for her own shitty household. My mom wrote back explaining why things got to this point and that she felt that things couldn't be fixed. She is even thinking about meeting with the witch to make things better for the kids and my Dad. They are going to the other family's Thanksgiving get together. She is really going beyond what she should have to.
After hearing all of this I decided once and for all that there is no way I can be that big of a person. I can't forgive and forget in this situation. I can't even stand to be in the same room with these animals, let alone act in a civilized manner. At first this made me feel really shitty. I didn't want to hurt my Dad and I hate taking this road but I realized that my Dad only wants what is best for me which includes not being as stressed out as they get me. Besides, I think it is for the better. My Mom's side of the family have shown me what family is all about. They are there for you when you need them.They always have been and always will. Letting the other family tarnish this outlook on what a family should be would be wrong so I am letting them go.
Within the last year things have seemed to esculate. One of my "aunts" from the other family spread rumors about my mother stealing my Dad's passport and about me being pregnant (due to numerous doctor's visits that were in reality taking care of a cancerous condition). My father was ridiculed more than ever and they even did so in front of me. My "uncle" Dan treated me like shit and was constantly talking down to me and yelling at me. His form of making the situation better was to explain to me that even his stepson doesn't like him so I shouldn't take it personally. What type of person can be okay with people having such a hatred for them? What type of person can treat people so badly and think nothing of it?
The email my mother received today was from the worst of the "aunts", Marnie. It was asking my mother to meet with her to fix things. Keep in mind that this is the gossiping bitch who feels the need to make everyone else's life shitty to compensate for her own shitty household. My mom wrote back explaining why things got to this point and that she felt that things couldn't be fixed. She is even thinking about meeting with the witch to make things better for the kids and my Dad. They are going to the other family's Thanksgiving get together. She is really going beyond what she should have to.
After hearing all of this I decided once and for all that there is no way I can be that big of a person. I can't forgive and forget in this situation. I can't even stand to be in the same room with these animals, let alone act in a civilized manner. At first this made me feel really shitty. I didn't want to hurt my Dad and I hate taking this road but I realized that my Dad only wants what is best for me which includes not being as stressed out as they get me. Besides, I think it is for the better. My Mom's side of the family have shown me what family is all about. They are there for you when you need them.They always have been and always will. Letting the other family tarnish this outlook on what a family should be would be wrong so I am letting them go.