On relationships, or why I'm never getting married.
So, lately I've been noticing lots of my friends getting into relationships. That's fine; in fact, I'm usually ecstatic that they've found someone. Yay for them! However, it seems that when a person enters into a relationship, he tends to forget about his other friends, especially his other friends of the opposite sex. I say "he" on purpose because that is exactly what has been happening to me lately.
Most of my friends are guys; that's because of the instruments I play and the activities I'm interested in. I've never had a problem with that. Lately, though, they've been ditching me for their girlfriends. Today, on of my friends told me that he couldn't call me because "his girlfriend would hate it if he was calling other girls all the time." That's the most bullshit answer I've ever heard. So I actually told him, "I'm sorry your girlfriend is so jealous and insecure."
Now, I do bring some of this on myself. I have a naturally friendly, and sometimes crossing the line into flirtatious, personality. But I have never, ever, stole someone's boyfriend. I have kissed a guy who had a girlfriend, but I didn't know at the time that they were that serious. That's a whole different story, so back to the topic at hand. I just don't understand how a person can just drop all of his friends for a person that, chances are, he's going to have some horrible break-up with and never talk to again, so he wasted all that time, or he's going to marry and spend the rest of his life with anyway, so even then, it's healthy to have friends outside of the relationship, even friends of the opposite sex.
So, in conclusion, this is why I can't have a successful relationship. Because it seems to me that, people at least think, in order to have a successful relationship, a person has to spend all his time with the other person and can't hang out with other people unless said person is there. That doesn't work for me because 1) I don't have enough free time to spend massive amounts of time with any one person and 2) I couldn't imagine spending all my time with one person and never hanging with the guys, and by that, I mean my massive amount of guys friends that I love like brothers. So I guess I'm going to stay single forever.
Most of my friends are guys; that's because of the instruments I play and the activities I'm interested in. I've never had a problem with that. Lately, though, they've been ditching me for their girlfriends. Today, on of my friends told me that he couldn't call me because "his girlfriend would hate it if he was calling other girls all the time." That's the most bullshit answer I've ever heard. So I actually told him, "I'm sorry your girlfriend is so jealous and insecure."
Now, I do bring some of this on myself. I have a naturally friendly, and sometimes crossing the line into flirtatious, personality. But I have never, ever, stole someone's boyfriend. I have kissed a guy who had a girlfriend, but I didn't know at the time that they were that serious. That's a whole different story, so back to the topic at hand. I just don't understand how a person can just drop all of his friends for a person that, chances are, he's going to have some horrible break-up with and never talk to again, so he wasted all that time, or he's going to marry and spend the rest of his life with anyway, so even then, it's healthy to have friends outside of the relationship, even friends of the opposite sex.
So, in conclusion, this is why I can't have a successful relationship. Because it seems to me that, people at least think, in order to have a successful relationship, a person has to spend all his time with the other person and can't hang out with other people unless said person is there. That doesn't work for me because 1) I don't have enough free time to spend massive amounts of time with any one person and 2) I couldn't imagine spending all my time with one person and never hanging with the guys, and by that, I mean my massive amount of guys friends that I love like brothers. So I guess I'm going to stay single forever.