Ask PC Andy, advice given to the lovelorn for free
That sorry excuse for an agony aunt Captain Jack Torchwood has left some bits behind to be sorted out. Here's one I answered earlier, posted late due to the match fol-de-rol which turned out to not be a match but the RHS Cardiff in bloom exibition. Jeez, even flowers don't have criminal tendancies when there's an away match at Twickenham to watch on the telly... Cross posted on Ianto's blog, thanks mate.
Dear Captain Jack PC Davidson,
I really love the work I do and I enjoy the team I work with, but I am finding that another person keeps taking credit for what I do. I am worried that if this continues, the valuable work my team does won't get any credit. And when this person isn't taking credit for our work, they're running all over the company like they own it!
The other problem is, well, this person is very charming and even when they're causing me problems, I can't help but like them. How do I shake off this attraction and make sure I get credit where it's due?
Annoyed Civil Servant
Dear ACS
It's a sad fact that the Welsh have had a lock on this exact problem for more than a few years now, and there is a world-wide application for the whole sorry scenario. It was rooted back in history that there was some English twit who thought he could tell the Welsh what to do and how to lose a war to him, and that didn't go well at all. We downgraded to a principality and they left us alone until the Industrial Revolution and they found coal. Then credit for the coal was taken as read by the bosses who took the world by storm and stood in parlours drinking fine teas and disparaging the working classes.
http://whc.unesco.org/en/list (Blaenavon). Just a bit up from Cardiff and worth a visit.
The valuable work gets credit by your composure and demeanour everyday and under boredom as well as stress, and radiate in that yourself with a little more confidence than you seem to have in yourself at the moment... Just watch the silly bastards fanny about and get silly and full of emotion as the Welsh person sorts stuff out and gets it done, usually to a better standard than all these people can manage together with a month of Sundays for planning. I speak here with a voice of experience, ACS, and it is with a heavy heart that I tell you that there are three choices open to you.
Beat them, join them or go mad.
Beat them by being better than James Bond, and remembering that their glory is dependent on you almost completely by what you say. Having a front row seat for the successes is therefore your right, so stand in the right places at the right time, being the right hand person to go to and downgrade your concern from "worry" to "on the to do list" for getting your organisation its credit. Dress smarter but be approachable too, and get yourself picked to represent your organisation for your boss in the eye of others outside so your status is confirmed...
Joining them is a slippery slope to God knows what, and is more than likely the source of the angst and anger at the root of your letter, and the attraction to this irritant. They are using you, but you are letting them do this and playing their game. Withdraw a little and see if it's a genuine attraction or just a device to get rid of you after a bad break-up. Being in the same workspace as someone you're split from is not advantageous and causes the bosses to raise doubt even where nothing is wrong, remembering that you are under their rules.
Go mad in the positive sense every so often and have fun. Makes them want to join you, and everyone enjoys a wrapped-up present more after all, male or female.
To succeed here be more *Welsh*, that's the summary there for you.
Regards, Andy.
Dear Captain Jack PC Davidson,
I really love the work I do and I enjoy the team I work with, but I am finding that another person keeps taking credit for what I do. I am worried that if this continues, the valuable work my team does won't get any credit. And when this person isn't taking credit for our work, they're running all over the company like they own it!
The other problem is, well, this person is very charming and even when they're causing me problems, I can't help but like them. How do I shake off this attraction and make sure I get credit where it's due?
Annoyed Civil Servant
Dear ACS
It's a sad fact that the Welsh have had a lock on this exact problem for more than a few years now, and there is a world-wide application for the whole sorry scenario. It was rooted back in history that there was some English twit who thought he could tell the Welsh what to do and how to lose a war to him, and that didn't go well at all. We downgraded to a principality and they left us alone until the Industrial Revolution and they found coal. Then credit for the coal was taken as read by the bosses who took the world by storm and stood in parlours drinking fine teas and disparaging the working classes.
http://whc.unesco.org/en/list (Blaenavon). Just a bit up from Cardiff and worth a visit.
The valuable work gets credit by your composure and demeanour everyday and under boredom as well as stress, and radiate in that yourself with a little more confidence than you seem to have in yourself at the moment... Just watch the silly bastards fanny about and get silly and full of emotion as the Welsh person sorts stuff out and gets it done, usually to a better standard than all these people can manage together with a month of Sundays for planning. I speak here with a voice of experience, ACS, and it is with a heavy heart that I tell you that there are three choices open to you.
Beat them, join them or go mad.
Beat them by being better than James Bond, and remembering that their glory is dependent on you almost completely by what you say. Having a front row seat for the successes is therefore your right, so stand in the right places at the right time, being the right hand person to go to and downgrade your concern from "worry" to "on the to do list" for getting your organisation its credit. Dress smarter but be approachable too, and get yourself picked to represent your organisation for your boss in the eye of others outside so your status is confirmed...
Joining them is a slippery slope to God knows what, and is more than likely the source of the angst and anger at the root of your letter, and the attraction to this irritant. They are using you, but you are letting them do this and playing their game. Withdraw a little and see if it's a genuine attraction or just a device to get rid of you after a bad break-up. Being in the same workspace as someone you're split from is not advantageous and causes the bosses to raise doubt even where nothing is wrong, remembering that you are under their rules.
Go mad in the positive sense every so often and have fun. Makes them want to join you, and everyone enjoys a wrapped-up present more after all, male or female.
To succeed here be more *Welsh*, that's the summary there for you.
Regards, Andy.