The Cost of Protecting Yourself Emotionally

[dont_fall_4_me]

            In order to protect yourself emotionally, you must strike first.  From the beginning you must establish control over the end of every kiss, every utterance of affection, and every phone call.  No mountain is too small to plant your flag into.  No battle too miniscule to be recorded as a victory.

Make it

Comments

[dontcallme_ash]

you probably dont want to hear this, but most (if not all) of your guy friends are probably in love with you

[angelbum]

I don't get that really. I mean, I've had guy friends I've had crushes on. But I don't get why guy friends fall for you..and then don't say anything about it until you don't have any feelings for them other than friendship.

You seem like a smart guy. Why do guys do that?

[dontcallme_ash]

if a guy falls in love with you, he's in love with you. it depends on the guy as to what he's willing to settle for. if he doesn't think he has a shot, he'll take the friendship just to maintain some kind of contact. "nice", "sweet", and "emotional" guys tend to do this quite often. they'll never make their move because they know that rejection means they can never speak to you again. it'd be too painful. so, they will pine away, waiting for the day when you finally "come to your senses", or deliver "i've loved you for so long i can't be friends with you any more" ultimatums when they can pine no longer.

....or maybe that's just me

[angelbum]

Nah, that probably sounds right. My friend Justin (the aforementioned guy) isn't emotional or anything though. I've known him for 5 years maybe. And he's very..emotionless..it's freaky. Doesn't help he believes he's a vampire...So maybe he just likes making me feel bad that I don't have feelings for him? Because why else would he wait until I'm with someone else..and it's happened more than once.

[dontcallme_ash]

just because he appears to be doesn't mean he's emotionless, some people feel things very......internally i guess, and yes, he's trying to guilt you into "discovering" feelings for him

[angelbum]

oh that's for sure. I suck at hiding my feelings, but I know a lot of people who are like zombies when it comes to emotion.

It's just the fact that I feel like he's messing with my head that annoys me. And then I feel like a bad person..I'd say men..but it seems like more women play head games than guys.

[dontcallme_ash]

guys play games too, women are just better at it....or at least the prizes are better

[dont_fall_4_me]

or prizes.

[dontcallme_ash]

?

[angelbum]

haha, guys meaning the prizes...or what? It just seems more obvious when women do it. But maybe that's because I know how the female mind works.

[dont_fall_4_me]

or zombies.

[dont_fall_4_me]

don't hate on vampires.

[angelbum]

I love vampires. It's just that he says I turned his heart to ice, therefore making him a Vampire. Which doesn't quite make sense to me. But then again I don't understand why it always slips out when I break up with someone that we can be friends. One of life's unsolved mysteries

[dont_fall_4_me]

did you mean to tell me this or angela?

because I'm sure a good deal of my guy friends (if they read this) would be up in arms at this statement.

I'm sure plenty of them like to consider me asexual.

[dontcallme_ash]

there's only you, baby

and of course they'd be up in arms, they don't want to be exposed