This takes the Wedding Cake.....
Marriage.
Hmm, what about it?
I don't know.
For one, I dont know if I necessarily will/want to get married
In a disussion with my friend one day about marriage she talked how for her in order to have a kid she would want to be married first. Agreeably so, typically that is the right way to do things. However, my stance on it was, that although marriage is ideal for some people, it all depends on your view of marriage. She said that marriage was more of a formal committment thing for her being made as opposed to because of religious beliefs. Many people marry for the wrong reasons. Pressure, religious pressure, family, pregnancy and all of those things have influence. I've never even come close to being married, so i cant say what it feels like to want to choose someone that i will say i want to spend the rest of my life with. But imo marriage doesnt equal a great relationship, it doesnt always equal love and it doesnt equal success.
Whats the statistic 50% of marriaged fail?? 50%. wow. anyways besides that many people unfortunately settle. i think eventually, even a hardcore relationship cynic like myself ,wants to find a person to "settle down with". There is a difference tho with settling and settling down.
Settling is like, "ok this person is good enough, i kind of like them, lets get married," while settling down is more recognizing the need to have a committed relationship with someone special or compatible to yourself.
Maybe I am slightly biased...i dont know
Here are my views of marriage
1. If getting married, i do plan on keeping my maiden name, at least hyphened with the potential partner's name. Why? My last name is who I have always been. I understand it is tradition, which is why I am willing to hyphen it because sharing the same last name does show a level of unity, but especially if I am successful, I'm keeping my last name.
2. Dough, cash, scrilla, cash money, whatever you call it is the number 1 or number 2 cause of all divorces. People fighting over money. Money is a big issue and who controls the money is a huge factor. As a family I think you should work together with providing for the household and expenses.
However, I am a huge huge believer in separate bank accounts. If I want to go out and buy 100 dollars worth of makeup or clothes or whatever else, I dont feel the need to hear it from the husband about it, nor do I want to bitch if he wants to spend 400 bucks on seasons tickets to football games.
Now..as long as we aren't in debt and are doing well financially we should have our separate accounts. Now, I am all for 100% a joint account which goes towards purchases we make together and houshold expenses. But I should be working, he should be working, and there should be expenses shared.
i am not trying to come off as some 21st century feminist that doesn't need a man type. And i wouldnt try to immasculate the guy or anything, but i'm just saying i want my own money that i make.
Also, sorry but how many cases have you heard of a divorce where because the man made all the money everything was in his name and she is left with nothing or little to nothing. Of course if there are kids involved or something like that on a technicality there usually is money given to the wife, but still.
I'm not bashing the institution of marriage completely - it can be a truly amazing thing, if done correctly. Too many people don't have marriage seriously these days and it has really lost its meaning. The word marriage has such weight on it, but look at how many people completely wreck the value of marriage?
I'm 21, so for me personally I have alot to learn, do and think about before I even think about getting married. I have grown so much in the past few years, but there is still so many things I have yet to experience and put into words before it even
During an interesting experience with the ouija board, it told me I would get married at 23 (Laughs Out Loud). I'm 21 now and based on my current situation(s) i severely doubt that. Although I am interested in many forms of divination, I am not particularly all that fond of using a ouija board. It also spelled out the name of who I would marry, which is completely impossible..lol. So, there is some words of caution - the ouija board is a liar, hmmm maybe it is evil afterall lol.
But I do hope in the future to balance a successful career and successful relationship, but right now thats not even in my line of thinking. Enjoy a relationship have fun whatever, but marriage (as my definition of it) is too deep of a thing to even deserve at this moment. I wonder......