help......

[domsgurll]

Okay, I have a Snafu.... I kinda have this crush on this guy. But I don't know how to ask him out. I'm really shy when it comes to guys and he's kinda one of my friends and I really don't want things to get weird if I ask him out and he says no. So what do you, my infinitely wise lj friends, suggest I should do

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[mistressminx_13]

I'm so happy for you. Unfortunately, I'm the wrong person to ask, since I haven't dated in something like 18 years.

[domsgurll]

We went out with some friends today and had lunch at the Olive Garden and I don't really think he's interested. I'm scared. He's so amazing. He's adorkable and funny and he's an amazing writer. I'm kinda scared.
I think I'm going to not ask him out. I'd rather be alone than be rejected.

[mickeylover303]

I shouldn't really be saying anything since I've never been in a relationship before, but...

You can always do the roundabout thing and ask him to hang out with you; going somewhere with a really casual and relaxed atmosphere. But most importantly something fun for both of you so you can be yourselves. And then you can see how that goes.

Hmm...I can't be helpful there. But I'd say it just depends on the kind of person the guy is. See, I have a lot of male friends and we flirt with each other all the time; mostly because we're so perverted relaxed around each other, but it doesn't mean anything since some of them have girlfriends.

[domsgurll]

It seems like everyone I know has no idea what it's like to be in a relationship. Me and him and some of our friends went out last week to eat and we're going to get together again when the semester ends. I tried to ask him if he wanted to go to a concert with me, but he doesn't like Gym Class Heroes. Therefore, I'll just end up going with Rachel. Oh well....
Like I told Minxy, I'd rather be alone than rejected. I'm used to being alone. Of course, my sister says that there's no way we can be related because I'm shy like that. And if I never take risks, I'll never get rewards, but at least my hearts intact.

[mickeylover303]

Well, chin up. Life works in mysterious ways. so you never know. /poor attempt at a motivation speech

Honestly, I think I'm asexual until further notice. But I think I would take the risk if the right opportunity came along. And who knows, maybe you would, too. Then again, I'm a sadomasochist, so once more, I shouldn't be speaking about matters like this.

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[domsgurll]

You know what's sad, I think I am too. I know that I feel more pleasure from cutting my arms than from an orgasm, but I'm just afraid that in a couple of years, I'm going to be the only 25-year-old virgin in the world. I don't want to just throw something like that away, but I don't want to die a virgin.
Thanks so much for being there when I need you hun!!!! *hugs&kisses*
Love ya!!!
Jenn
ps>>> I'd take a risk if Alan Rickman came along. I'd walk straight up to him and I'd say, "Mr. Rickman, I'm going to drag you in a closet and molest you. I don't care if this is alright with you or not, but I'm going to, so be prepared." *gigglesnort*