It's Sexist, That's What It Is.

[dodger_sister]

Why are so many people of the opinion that being a stay-at-home dad is ‘doing nothing’? You should hear some of the things people in my family say about my little brother, just because he doesn’t have a ‘job’. It’s so sexist. If it were his wife who chose to stay home and take care of the kids, she’d be doing her duty as a wife and mother. But

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[dodger_sister]

Ugh, I'm pissed off too! That is fucked up. :( All the kudos in the world to your brother, he seems like an awesome dude and he shoulde be proud of the work he's doing. Raising kids is like one of the most important things a person can do, imo.

I know my brother is no saint and he certainly could work on some issues, but he loves those kids and he teaches them so many good things, like when he takes my nephew to the soup kitchen to feed the homeless or to plant trees on Earth Day. My dad barely noticed us unless it was time for him to coach one of us in a sport - (which means he never noticed me) - and here my brother is being so involved in his kids lives. When they got a crate of discounted comics for The Nephew for Christmas, my brother read every single one of those comics (a whole crate) just so he could weed out the ones that weren't appropriate. Like what Dad does that? I feel like so much of the judging in this family is based on actions my brother took when he was drunk. He is an alcoholic. But he has been sober for over 6 years now. He got sober for his family, because he love his wife and kid. No one in my family gives him credit for that and now they see him staying home to 'do nothing' and they judge him. They don't know anything about him, but they still judge him.

[wolfrider89]

Those are a lot of really good things your brother is doing. My dad stayed home with me for a year after I was born (we have paid parental leave in Sweden) and let me tell you, it really, really makes a difference in the realtionship with the kid. I whish more dads got the opportunity to be close to their kids, it's really important stuff.

I'm really sorry your family isn't giving him any credit for either staying sober or raising his kids, that really sucks. :(