It never ceases to amaze me, at how unprofessional, some professional care givers are.
I'm sorry that you had to hear such rubbish, and I should make a formal compliant about this, otherwise this person is going to continue to upset patients.
Because no one has actually told them (even though they should already know) that this type of response, is wrong, wrong, wrong and downright rude!
Glad that you have a bit of movement back in your shoulder and that you are focusing on the positive :)
It never ceases to amaze me, at how unprofessional, some professional care givers are.
Right? Do you ever feel like you have to wade through ten different health care professionals to find just one decent one?
and I should make a formal compliant about this, otherwise this person is going to continue to upset patients.
I thought about it after reading your comment, but I am a little uneasy about it. Because I am friends with the boss of the place, I don't want people to start being like, "Oh, watch what you say around Dodger, she's friends with the boss!", you know? But I could say something to my actual therapist because this girl is her assistant, so that would be a good chain of command without going to the top or making it an official complaint. I was just so baffled at the time because I couldn't believe a person who deals with 50+ patients everyday with varying degrees of injuries/illness would actually say those words out loud to a patient.
Because no one has actually told them (even though they should already know)
( ... )
"Oh, you poor thing." Really?! Oh, you poor thing! No, honestly, that's just sad. Especially that she kicked out 'your guy'. Didn't she know you're feeling better with him? Or did she know and simply didn't care? Bitch.
Really?! Oh, you poor thing! No, honestly, that's just sad.
I couldn't believe it. This girl knows very little about my life in the scheme of things - she certainly does not know enough to be offering me pity that I don't want!
Especially that she kicked out 'your guy'. Didn't she know you're feeling better with him? Or did she know and simply didn't care?
I think I was suppose to be 'honored' or something that she took over. In the ladder of who has more training and such, it goes Therapist, Therapist Assistant and then Aide - which means this girl was one step above The Kid and I think I was suppose to be like, "Oh good, I get to work with a professional today!" Except I don't think she does any better of a job than any of the aides do anyway.
Oh that's stupid. Health professionals should know better than anyone not to be patronizing to their patients because that just makes something that's not fun anyway worse. People suck sometimes.
Oh that's stupid. Health professionals should know better than anyone not to be patronizing to their patients because that just makes something that's not fun anyway worse.
It's always been the thing I like the best about my therapy place - that it doesn't feel like a 'medical' facility and I never feel like I am the 'disabled' person when I am there. That should be their job, to make it feel like that too.
But now, with this girl, idk it's like...there was always this constant feeling when I would go with my now-passed grandmother to her coffee hour, this struggle to make all those ladies see 'me' and see past my health issues and this reaction just reminded me so much of that.
You're welcome to snag it as its one I made. It looks so much like my cat Charlie did that I had to do something with the image.
Ugh, I know that feeling, its how I've felt with my administrators. I hate when people who's job it is to be helpful and professional end up patronizing and out of touch.
Lol Your McCoy icon is also awesome. I think I will grab the Charlie Cat, it's too cute, thanks!
Ugh, I know that feeling, its how I've felt with my administrators. I hate when people who's job it is to be helpful and professional end up patronizing and out of touch.We were watching this documentary today about inner city schools in DC. (we had to stop watching it after a little bit because J was getting depressed by the system) But anyways, there was this new teacher, about your age, first job, first year at the school, and the principal made a point of observing him once a week for a short time and then having an end of the week sit-down with him every week to discuss whatever he needed to be working on. Like she noted he didn't seem to have much of a lesson plan and he wasn't really letting the kids do enough hands-on, so she wanted him to work on that. She said he had a case of fresh-new-teacher going on and she just wanted to keep nudging him in the right direction. They were set to do that for the first two months and
( ... )
The next time she tries to "oh poor thing" you, can you look her dead in the eye and say, "I don't feel you're being professional to say that in such a condescending way, or really, to make that sort of comment in any tone at all. Can we just address the history, symptoms, and procedures for improvement, please?"
The next time she tries to "oh poor thing" you, can you look her dead in the eye and say, "I don't feel you're being professional to say that in such a condescending way, or really, to make that sort of comment in any tone at all. Can we just address the history, symptoms, and procedures for improvement, please?"Actually this suggestion really helped me formulate a plan of action. I think the next time this girl asks me a medical question (beyond 'What hurts today?") but like about the actual disease or doctors treatments or anything, I think I am just going to say the same thing I say to old ladies and friends of my mom's, "I am not comfortable answering that question." And if she pulls out the, "I am a medical professional" card, I am going to be straight up and say, "The last time I answered a question about my history, you gave me a very unprofessional response and I am no longer comfortable answering questions that don't pertain to exactly what we are doing right now
( ... )
Comments 17
I'm sorry that you had to hear such rubbish, and I should make a formal compliant about this, otherwise this person is going to continue to upset patients.
Because no one has actually told them (even though they should already know) that this type of response, is wrong, wrong, wrong and downright rude!
Glad that you have a bit of movement back in your shoulder and that you are focusing on the positive :)
sarahk
Reply
Right? Do you ever feel like you have to wade through ten different health care professionals to find just one decent one?
and I should make a formal compliant about this, otherwise this person is going to continue to upset patients.
I thought about it after reading your comment, but I am a little uneasy about it. Because I am friends with the boss of the place, I don't want people to start being like, "Oh, watch what you say around Dodger, she's friends with the boss!", you know? But I could say something to my actual therapist because this girl is her assistant, so that would be a good chain of command without going to the top or making it an official complaint. I was just so baffled at the time because I couldn't believe a person who deals with 50+ patients everyday with varying degrees of injuries/illness would actually say those words out loud to a patient.
Because no one has actually told them (even though they should already know) ( ... )
Reply
Really?! Oh, you poor thing! No, honestly, that's just sad. Especially that she kicked out 'your guy'. Didn't she know you're feeling better with him? Or did she know and simply didn't care? Bitch.
Reply
I couldn't believe it. This girl knows very little about my life in the scheme of things - she certainly does not know enough to be offering me pity that I don't want!
Especially that she kicked out 'your guy'. Didn't she know you're feeling better with him? Or did she know and simply didn't care?
I think I was suppose to be 'honored' or something that she took over. In the ladder of who has more training and such, it goes Therapist, Therapist Assistant and then Aide - which means this girl was one step above The Kid and I think I was suppose to be like, "Oh good, I get to work with a professional today!" Except I don't think she does any better of a job than any of the aides do anyway.
Reply
Reply
Oh that's stupid. Health professionals should know better than anyone not to be patronizing to their patients because that just makes something that's not fun anyway worse.
It's always been the thing I like the best about my therapy place - that it doesn't feel like a 'medical' facility and I never feel like I am the 'disabled' person when I am there. That should be their job, to make it feel like that too.
But now, with this girl, idk it's like...there was always this constant feeling when I would go with my now-passed grandmother to her coffee hour, this struggle to make all those ladies see 'me' and see past my health issues and this reaction just reminded me so much of that.
Reply
Ugh, I know that feeling, its how I've felt with my administrators. I hate when people who's job it is to be helpful and professional end up patronizing and out of touch.
Reply
Ugh, I know that feeling, its how I've felt with my administrators. I hate when people who's job it is to be helpful and professional end up patronizing and out of touch.We were watching this documentary today about inner city schools in DC. (we had to stop watching it after a little bit because J was getting depressed by the system) But anyways, there was this new teacher, about your age, first job, first year at the school, and the principal made a point of observing him once a week for a short time and then having an end of the week sit-down with him every week to discuss whatever he needed to be working on. Like she noted he didn't seem to have much of a lesson plan and he wasn't really letting the kids do enough hands-on, so she wanted him to work on that. She said he had a case of fresh-new-teacher going on and she just wanted to keep nudging him in the right direction. They were set to do that for the first two months and ( ... )
Reply
Reply
Reply
Responses like that is the reason I don't share too many mentions of aches and pains with my mom. *sigh*
Reply
I feel ya'. That's why I don't give details to my grandma. She means well but she always makes me cringe with her responses.
My mother, however, is a one-upper. She dismisses whatever I say and then proceeds to tell me her own ailments. /shakes head/
Reply
Leave a comment