Just Let Me Pee

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Protip: Once you develop some confidence in your own gender presentation, it is really, really easy to embarrass strangers who misgender you. I don't do it on purpose to people who obviously mean no harm, but come on: there is no good reason to even speak to a stranger in a public restroom*, let alone challenge their presence there. A couple of

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[newdance]

Glad you are at a place where you can let it slide off you. Only you get to decide how someone else's actions affect you, so good for you.

I know you mean this well, but those two statements are inherently contradictory.

If some-one is at a place (mentally, emotionally, physically) where then can have the option (whatever that means) to let such interactions "slide off", then there is naturally going to be an implication that there was a point in that person's life where "let it slide off" was not an option. As such, this means that one doesn't always decide how another's actions of words affect oneself.

Like I said, I know you mean well, I'm only trying to help cos, well, I'm going through seasonal depression right now, and to top it off, a year ago this week, I had to put down a cat who was very precious to me. Most days this last month, it's not very easy to let comments like "only you get to decide how someone's actions affect you", and there have been days this last week alone where reading that would have made the depression spiral down to a point where I simply couldn't let it slide off. I believe most people are inherently decent and want to do right by others, so I'm saying this in hopes that you'll take it with the kindness and helpful intent I meant it.

[ryeth]

I am sorry that my reply struck you wrong and I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your pet. I am a pet lover myself. I certainly meant it in a kind way, and actually I meant it as a praise.

I will say though that I don't believe the sentiments are contradictory, it is simply two different reactions/situations/mindsets. There will be times when you, or anyone, cannot let things go or keep something from upsetting you. That is a part of life. It can be related to other things going on in your life, your mental state, who the hurt came from, and more. Those times are really tough. I've been there many times. But, there are also moments when you recognize the upset something causes and you are able to let it slide off rather than holding onto it. And when you can do that, it is a good thing. It's a good thing for your mind, body and soul. It is a very good thing. But, that doesn't assume you always can.