I don't have a girl but I totally disagree that a parent will rush to the hurt girl before the hurt boy. I think MEN specifically might be more likely do that...since men sometimes want to toughen up their boys and they naturally tend to see their girls as their little babies and they want to protect them. That isn't always the case though. Personally I would go to the one who seemed hurt more or, like you said, came to me first or was closest. I'd give them both attention.
I really think our society does not program kids according to their gender so much these days. I truly think most girls are girly, which doesn't necessarily mean their fav color is pink and they play with barbies, and boys are boyish. It's a fact of life that boys and girls are different. I wish we could just enjoy our differences rather than try to make boys more like girls and vis versa. That being said...I never thought of cooking etc to be girls work. My son loves to help bake and cook. He also loves fixing things with his tools and rough housing. He also told me he wanted a Cinderella birthday party. At any rate, I saw a show on Discovery Health that gave me nightmares. It was about twin boys. I can't remember what happened to one of the boys but his parents ended up being advised to raise him as a girl because his genitals were misformed or something. They were told that gender was just something we imposed on our children. He was unhappy and confused as a child. This is getting long so I'll try to finish up...the boy was finally told that he was a boy. He was happy to live as a boy but ended up commiting suicide because of all the garbage he had to deal with in his confused, abused life. His brother commited suiced as well. I think boys and girls are born different and it's o.k. to let them be different.
Personally I would go to the one who seemed hurt more or, like you said, came to me first or was closest. I'd give them both attention.
I really think our society does not program kids according to their gender so much these days. I truly think most girls are girly, which doesn't necessarily mean their fav color is pink and they play with barbies, and boys are boyish. It's a fact of life that boys and girls are different. I wish we could just enjoy our differences rather than try to make boys more like girls and vis versa.
That being said...I never thought of cooking etc to be girls work. My son loves to help bake and cook. He also loves fixing things with his tools and rough housing. He also told me he wanted a Cinderella birthday party.
At any rate, I saw a show on Discovery Health that gave me nightmares. It was about twin boys. I can't remember what happened to one of the boys but his parents ended up being advised to raise him as a girl because his genitals were misformed or something. They were told that gender was just something we imposed on our children. He was unhappy and confused as a child. This is getting long so I'll try to finish up...the boy was finally told that he was a boy. He was happy to live as a boy but ended up commiting suicide because of all the garbage he had to deal with in his confused, abused life. His brother commited suiced as well.
I think boys and girls are born different and it's o.k. to let them be different.
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