"Are You SURE We're Not Going In Circles? That Tree Looks Rather Familiar..."
So, here I am again. In the dilemma of "what to do about dating?". It seems "Not Quite a Date" had a lot of fun at dinner with me on Friday and would like to go out again. He called me yesterday to see if I might be interested in doing dinner again or maybe a movie when he gets back into town (he's going to see family for the holidays).
He listened to me when I talked and proved how well he pays attention by following up later. He remembered I said I was on myspace, so he found me and sent me a message. Then when he called me yesterday, he asked about the movie I had mentioned I was planning on seeing.
And once again I struggle, faced with an all too familiar question: Is it fair to accept a second date when my heart is somewhere else? The difference this time is that the "somewhere else" has already rejected me.
So, then, why is this so hard? One guy wants to date me, one doesn't. It's kind of a no-brainer, really.
But that's the problem: The brain is not the one running the show.
DAMN HEART! Have you learned NOTHING in the past 5,000 years of rejection? Why must you cling to where you are unwanted? I can't trust you!
Last time I was in this situation I was given the advice to follow my heart, which was saying "Don't do it! Wait for the one you love!". This time, I'm going to disregard that advice and do the opposite. The more my heart clings to E, the more I'm going to push him away.
It's time to move on. And what better way to accomplish that then by accepting a second date?
He listened to me when I talked and proved how well he pays attention by following up later. He remembered I said I was on myspace, so he found me and sent me a message. Then when he called me yesterday, he asked about the movie I had mentioned I was planning on seeing.
And once again I struggle, faced with an all too familiar question: Is it fair to accept a second date when my heart is somewhere else? The difference this time is that the "somewhere else" has already rejected me.
So, then, why is this so hard? One guy wants to date me, one doesn't. It's kind of a no-brainer, really.
But that's the problem: The brain is not the one running the show.
DAMN HEART! Have you learned NOTHING in the past 5,000 years of rejection? Why must you cling to where you are unwanted? I can't trust you!
Last time I was in this situation I was given the advice to follow my heart, which was saying "Don't do it! Wait for the one you love!". This time, I'm going to disregard that advice and do the opposite. The more my heart clings to E, the more I'm going to push him away.
It's time to move on. And what better way to accomplish that then by accepting a second date?