And it comes back . . .

[dkountz81]

Keith (my husband) and I met in photography class. For a while it was something we could share, something we could do together and offer support for each other in. But as our respective styles emerged he got less and less supportive of my work, often refusing to discuss it because it was "technically unsound". His style was very clean, with near

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[jenlemus]

There is always something with husbands, isn't there?

Mine has a habit of keeping his mouth shut whe he shouldn't. On big things even, like buying a car. When we bought it, he said he was happy with it. I thought it was a compromise vehicle (a Toyota Matrix).

Four years later, he can't even drive it. Has refused to learn to drive a clutch, which he'd insisted he'd be fine with at the time. Calls it a "mommy car" too. He said he was feeling guilty because he'd been gone for a year (Iraq) so he just went along with anything I said. I'd gotten a sense at the time he was holding back, but he kept saying he was fine.

If I'd known he didn't like the Matrix I'd have bought the care I wanted, a Mini Cooper. His car is on its last legs, so he's now pressuring me to trade my car in so we can get something he's okay with.

Husbands can *really* piss you off sometimes.

Stick to your guns. Do your photography and seek your validation elsewhere. His critisims are the equivalent to a yes answer of "Am I fat?"

Be blunt, tell him his way of communicating about your photography hurts you, so you aren't going to share it with him any more unless he asks to see it. When he does want to see stuff, tell him you only want to hear what he likes about a shot.

Remember, there is no accounting for taste!

[dkountz81]

true enough. I've told him that I need him to work on how he delivers his critique of my work, and I really do want to get his feedback. I wouldn't be so upset if I just didn't care. I actually get a lot of positive feed back from a great many people I respect, but it's not the same.
This is something we need to work on, and I can't let it go because that's going to seed resentment that we'll harvest years from now.

Sucks about your car though. he should really know how to use a clutch, they're so much more fun to drive AND knowing how to use one means you can drive just about any car or truck out there. It's a good skill to have.