Women like the thrill too, but they are frowned upon
Date books, and some people talk about the nature premise that men pursue women.
But oftentimes, women want to pursue men. However, usually when women do, they are pursuing "emotionally unavailable men" or species of the sort.
However, they have to PRETEND to be emotionally unavailable in order to catch a man... because men enjoy the thrill.
It is also common the stereotype that women get bored with available guys because they don't challenge them.
Has anyone thought that maybe women enjoy the chase as much as men? Has anyone questioned men enjoyed the chase the way women are questioned.
Because men enjoy the chase, but they get tired too. I have noticed that.
Many a time, when I am on dates with a person, it ends up not working; either because the guy has to "chase me" in order to "give up my space," or because I am "too available." Then, the person gives up after a while.
I am not condoning either position, my point is, if women and man are different, to what extent is nature and to what extent is cultural conditioning?
Maybe the thrill of the chase is simply human, but it has been discouraged on women for thousands of years because women used to be seen as, for lack of a better term, "objects" that belonged to the home sphere. So men had to fight for this.
Perhaps this is one of the reasons I rarely date. I just want to be myself.
Discuss...