Opportunities

[djdefjef]

I spoke to a friend of mine tonight that I've known for approximately 8 years.  We have mutual interests and that's how we originally met!  I was immediately attracted to his personality.  'What a great guy' was what I thought after I first met him.  Eight years later, I was correct.  He is a great guy!  In the past eight years, I have grown and

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[coloradofather]

Like others, I welcome you... join the crowds... And it's funny that your first post would be about challenges that you see as opportunities... It is actually really really weird. I have just finished talking with a few friends about my new job and how I approach it with the same attitude: where others see challenges and problems, I see them as opportunities to improve the situation... now if I could only do that also with my son, we would be golden...

Welcome! Best

Val

[djdefjef]

Thanks Val! And thanks for the great comment! I'll comment more later, 'cause I'm out the door to see 'The X Files'! WOO HOO! Thanks again and I look forward to more conversation! Peace!

[djdefjef]

Hey man! Just wanted to get back to you! I was really perplexed and nervous about my first entry. Not that I was really worried about impressing anybody, however, after Jeffers wonderful introduction of me, I was afraid I wouldn't live up to it! Dumb huh! Anyway, I was also a bit worried that no one would get me or what I was trying to relay. You did and I thank you for letting me know that! You really nipped it in the bud and I feel I struggled to get my point across about viewing challenges as opportunities. I've led much of my life as a victim until the age of 35 when I started to look for ways to change. What a journey. Not at all pleasant at times, but what an internal genesis! I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago at all! My choice of friends and my serenity prove it to me all the time! Thanks again Val and I look forward to corresponding with you more and reading your entries! Ciao!

[coloradofather]

Well, Jeff, I can appreciate what you said, because it has taken me a while to get there myself. Sometimes when a door closes, many more open, and you end up finding better things in the new rooms, no? I have to use that approach at work, because I am confronted with a lot of minor crises, with a lot of people worried about little things... so to look at them and say, "Fine, I honor your crisis, I honor that you are worried about this... But can we see if we can make lemonade out of these lemons, instead of putting our hands up and screaming "it's over"" seems to be the best thing to do.

Now, as I said, if I could only find a similar slant with my oldest boy (if you read my past entries, I have talked about him a bit... he is struggling, and I really fear for his future life, as he has not taken advantage of the opportunities HE has had), then I would be happiest.. I am still working on it, and I might yet succeed.

I look forward to your future entries. Hugs

[djdefjef]

Hey Val! I did read some of your past entries! No advice from me being that I have never had kids. Was married for 12 years but both my wife and I were pre-cancerous and didn't know it was hindering the process. All I know is that your efforts will pay off for either you, him or both of you at somepoint in time. however, you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make him drink! He is obviously struggling through something internally and may not even know it! He may be angry, or feels unloved even though you've adopted him. You can only do so much! The rest is left up to him and it is his journey afterall! My parents struggled with the same thing when it comes to my brother and it took him 287 years to straighten out his life, but he did it when he was ready! If I think of all the time, money, frustration and loss of love that my parents spent on him.....but in the end, it paid off. Faith is a very powerful thing! Keep your faith, not only for him, but primarily for yourself! I you don't take care of yourself

[coloradofather]

thank you bud, for the words of encouragement. I know it's going to be a very long road with him. You are absolutely right: I don't think he loves himself very much, so there is not a lot I can do to help him with that... but maybe in time if people help him (and not by letting him do what he wants), he will figure it out... there's always hope.

speaking of hope, your story as a cancer survivor is inspiring... keep fighting the good fight. Ciao

[djdefjef]

Yeah, that's a-whole-nother episode! I'm sure I'll write about it sometime! Later!