I honestly cannot believe you actually said that to me after all of these years of being friends. I do not understand why my being politically active would lead you to dislike me
I don’t recall saying anything in my comment that even remotely alluded to disliking you for “being politically active.” In fact, I qualified my entire statement with the fact that I feel you have every right to believe what you want to believe and say what you say, regardless of my feelings on the subject. What I was actually referring to was your blatantly homophobic attitude (which, again, you can have and I don’t care-but I also don’t have to read it, which is why I’ve chosen to unsubscribe from your journal).
Lesbian-ish posts? Do you mean posting pictures of movie stars on their birthdays, or referring to my best friend as my “husband”? Please. Don't be ridiculous. Why should my seemingly homoerotic comments have anything to do with you? I only spread love with these supposed "lifestyle choices," as you so condescendingly phrased it, whilst you seem intent on spreading hateful bigotry, both through your livejournal and your "political activism,” though protesting a gay pride parade seems less like a political stance and more like a chance to spread your homophobic attitudes.
It’s one thing to be “politically active,” and another thing entirely to want to berate and belittle people for admitting and accepting who they are. It’s one thing to enact a law in congress, and another thing to go out and consciously make people feel bad for something that has already caused them so much pain and grief, for no other discernable reason than to cause more pain.
You think it’s immature for me to challenge your decision, rather than just defriending you and walking away in silence? I think it’s rather immature to make personal attacks regarding my posts and passive aggressive threats against me (whom you no longer know anything about), rather than accepting the fact that I can no longer abide your using religion to spread hatred. The issue isn’t something middle school, as you were suggesting, like, “My favorite color is pink and yours is purple so we can’t be friends because I’m in the Pink Group and am only friends with people who like pink too.” It’s not a simple disagreement; it’s an irreconcilable clash of opinions and ideals. I don’t want to just “not be friends anymore.” I cannot fundamentally be friends with someone whose opinions are so conflicting with my own.
Something seems to get lost in the translation of online posts, as I did not mean to sound condescending towards you. My reply was not meant to be a personal attack, but rather a question as to why you are "defriending" me over a disagreement. Why we cannot agree to disagree is well beyond me. You assume that I am protesting the parade solely because I dislike the homosexual lifestyle, when in fact, I am protesting for many more reasons. I do not believe it is right for homosexuals to have a whole week and a parade to flaunt their sexuality. I do not believe it is decent for any group, whether straight, gay, or anything else to do so. I do not believe it is right for homosexuals to have a whole week and a parade while there is only one day for blind people, who happen to get missed, as their day is right in the middle of gay week. You define me as homophobic, which I find ridiculous, as I am not afraid of nor do I hate homosexuals. While you may not realiz it, one can choose to disagree with a certain stance without being hateful. Protests are not all necesarily hateful, and mine would not have been. But you didn't care about that: you "defriended" me as soon as you read that my ideals are different from your own and automatically generalized me as something that I am not. You do not have to read my journal anymore, or even be my friend. I will be just fine with that. However, if you could be so kind, please tell your friends to stop leaving rude comments in my journal, as they are unappreciated. I have never been rude to you, and I would like to end on gracious terms if that is what you are so choosing to do.
Sure, we can agree to disagree, but we would be disagreeing about everything, and would consequently have nothing to talk about (on this forum at least) and would no longer have a basis for any sort of friendship. This is not something that happened “as soon as” I read the post. I’ve been reading your posts without contest for a good many years now, and it’s finally reached the point at which I no longer wish to continue doing so.
I do not believe it is right for homosexuals to have a whole week and a parade while there is only one day for blind people, who happen to get missed, as their day is right in the middle of gay week. If THIS is your major concern with the parade, then why do you choose to rally against the gay parade instead of rallying FOR something comparable for blind people?
I told my friends they shouldn’t comment on your journal, but I had no idea they were actually doing so as you have apparently deleted all of their comments. If they were rude, I wouldn’t know.
What would you do if your child became conservative and held the same beliefs as me? I'm sure you wouldn't disown him/her, but rather you would choose to talk about the aspects of his/her life aside from politics, right? In my journal, I don't make political posts quite as often as I would like. A lot of the time, my posts are about my personal life, which a friend would be interested in. I don't share your love of older actors and actresses, which comprises a majority of your posts, but I always take the time to read them and continue to keep you on my friends list because we are/were just that, friends. Just because we don't share the same interests or even the same beliefs does not, to me, mean that we cannot share our other life experiences and remain friends. I would hope that you would not oust your other friends over disagreements, but rather choose to agree to disagree on certain topics while cherishing everything else you have/had in common. We have a lot of fun memories that I would hate for you to throw away because our religious and political ideals are different. You would not only be missing out on the past, but on future memories that we could have made. If you are still choosing this unfriendly path, be my guest, but I hope that it makes you think about other choices similar to this in the future, and teaches you perhaps not to be so petty.
I don’t recall saying anything in my comment that even remotely alluded to disliking you for “being politically active.” In fact, I qualified my entire statement with the fact that I feel you have every right to believe what you want to believe and say what you say, regardless of my feelings on the subject. What I was actually referring to was your blatantly homophobic attitude (which, again, you can have and I don’t care-but I also don’t have to read it, which is why I’ve chosen to unsubscribe from your journal).
Lesbian-ish posts? Do you mean posting pictures of movie stars on their birthdays, or referring to my best friend as my “husband”? Please. Don't be ridiculous. Why should my seemingly homoerotic comments have anything to do with you? I only spread love with these supposed "lifestyle choices," as you so condescendingly phrased it, whilst you seem intent on spreading hateful bigotry, both through your livejournal and your "political activism,” though protesting a gay pride parade seems less like a political stance and more like a chance to spread your homophobic attitudes.
It’s one thing to be “politically active,” and another thing entirely to want to berate and belittle people for admitting and accepting who they are. It’s one thing to enact a law in congress, and another thing to go out and consciously make people feel bad for something that has already caused them so much pain and grief, for no other discernable reason than to cause more pain.
You think it’s immature for me to challenge your decision, rather than just defriending you and walking away in silence? I think it’s rather immature to make personal attacks regarding my posts and passive aggressive threats against me (whom you no longer know anything about), rather than accepting the fact that I can no longer abide your using religion to spread hatred. The issue isn’t something middle school, as you were suggesting, like, “My favorite color is pink and yours is purple so we can’t be friends because I’m in the Pink Group and am only friends with people who like pink too.” It’s not a simple disagreement; it’s an irreconcilable clash of opinions and ideals. I don’t want to just “not be friends anymore.” I cannot fundamentally be friends with someone whose opinions are so conflicting with my own.
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I do not believe it is right for homosexuals to have a whole week and a parade while there is only one day for blind people, who happen to get missed, as their day is right in the middle of gay week.
If THIS is your major concern with the parade, then why do you choose to rally against the gay parade instead of rallying FOR something comparable for blind people?
I told my friends they shouldn’t comment on your journal, but I had no idea they were actually doing so as you have apparently deleted all of their comments. If they were rude, I wouldn’t know.
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