No More Mr. Nice Guy

Jul 12, 2005 18:01

Permit me to be a bitch for a moment. I've been inspired.

Some thoughts on the myth of the 'Nice Guy' )

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"Bitches Against Nice Guys!" sharrainchains July 13 2005, 16:06:12 UTC
You hit the bullseye with this discussion - thank you! It describes so many men that I know (or have "encountered"). Hearing a man claim to be a "Nice Guy" - or complaining that nice guys finish last - became a red flag for me long ago: I have never heard a real nice guy do either...

This is going in my links/memories, mainly because it reminds me that there are real nice guys "out there" - and that there are ways to differentiate between them.

Only one problem: what is the word between/including funny and sad to describe the feeling that this post triggers (the way bittersweet describes the joined feelings of sorrow and joy)? The feeling actually is only vaguely related to (real or Morrissette) irony - which is the closest shade I can mix without one of my many thesauri (which are still hiding in some unknown box in the wreck room).

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" divalion July 14 2005, 08:11:59 UTC
rueful? is the only one I can think of...

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" the_xtina March 23 2006, 14:54:24 UTC
"wry"?

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" sharrainchains March 30 2006, 20:50:57 UTC
Closer - thanks.

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" readcloud222 March 24 2006, 00:51:04 UTC
...i like your acronym...

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" sharrainchains March 30 2006, 20:51:53 UTC
Thanks.

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" readcloud222 March 30 2006, 22:14:38 UTC
...there was an actress [and i use the term lightly] back in the day [by my perspective] who went by the name Joy Bang. she was not a big star (she was in a movie with Rock Hudson and Angie Dickenson called 'Pretty maids all in a row'. anyway i always remembered her because of her name...
and the sonny and cher song...

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" clarsa March 24 2006, 15:45:42 UTC
truth

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" littleboots March 29 2006, 08:00:36 UTC
schadenfreude?

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" sharrainchains March 30 2006, 20:50:32 UTC
Schadenfreude conveys more of the sense of taking joy in someone's sorrow or misfortune rather than the simply mixed / "wry" [?] feeling I wanted to describe. Thanks, though.

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" sweetgonzotooth November 21 2007, 09:51:38 UTC
tragicomic, maybe? i know that's generally used more as a descriptive for content rather than a reaction, but... 'wry' (dry humor / twist to the face... the trademark 'wry grin' could be part of the reaction but isn't really a balanced conveyance of happy and sad)

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Re: "Bitches Against Nice Guys!" clicketykeys February 20 2010, 15:36:20 UTC
Ok, I know this is, like, five YEARS later, and you may not even see it, but - poignant?

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sharrainchains August 12 2012, 01:44:08 UTC
Nostalgia, perhaps?

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