Don't for the love of pete be Mr. Bad Touch. If she just squirmed over a few inches, it's not because she wants you to close the distance.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I may need to get this on a T-shirt. Or maybe tattoo it across my forehead. Then, perhaps people will realize that when I forcibly remove their hands from various non-public-access parts of my body, it's not because I want the thrilling experience of them putting their hands there *again.*
Hm, there's another distinction for you - nice guys, in my experience, tend to understand physical contact as an end of its own, instead of assuming that everything from hugging to handholding is a prelude to immediate sex....
"instead of assuming that everything from hugging to handholding is a prelude to immediate sex"
Oi, ain't that the truth. If my arms and legs are crossed and I'm hunched over, that doesn't mean I want you to grab me and say you're just a cuddly guy. >_
nice guys, in my experience, tend to understand physical contact as an end of its own, instead of assuming that everything from hugging to handholding is a prelude to immediate sex....
That's because it IS. An end of it's own, that is. I know some of my friends are obsessed with sexs like that; I know that as a guy supposedly I'm meant to be the same, that whole 'think about sex every few seconds' thing... But I don't. I think about GIRLS every few seconds/always, but... sex is kinda not that important.
I'm tempted to post this to my own journal, with credit to you, but the many Nice Guys who alternate between pretending to be my friends and resenting and reviling me for not falling at their feet would be up in arms.
You fall asleep held in the crook of their arms, or on their shoulders, clinging to their hair. The giant women feed you from their breasts-great sagging breasts as large as horses, with nipples as large as pitchers.
The bit about "tend to befriend women in order to date them" caught my eye. Isn't there a "are we just hanging out or are we going to date" period in most relationships?
Yes, mine all work out that way *grin*. I think the difference is one of intent. Is the friendship genuine or strictly a means to potential nookie? The Nice Guy (tm) will drop the friendship as soon as it's clear that no nookie is forthcoming.
Dating partners should be >= friends, not != friends!!azurelunaticMarch 24 2006, 01:14:27 UTC
I do a weird thing where it's "are we going to be friends or are we going to get fed up with each other?"
I absolutely Do Not Get the thing where some guys will absolutely REFUSE to date women who they are already friends with. I hold with the idea that if someone won't make a good friend, they definitely won't be good to date, because after the new-relationship-energy wears off, I won't be able to stand them. (Been there, done that, gave away the ring.)
Some of my worst dating disasters ever have been the ones where I was attracted to someone, jumped right in, and then figured out that they made a really lousy friend, let alone SO.
Re: Dating partners should be >= friends, not != friends!!elanthorasMarch 25 2006, 18:59:25 UTC
I absolutely Do Not Get the thing where some guys will absolutely REFUSE to date women who they are already friends withSpeaking as one of those guys, there is a certain point I get to with my friends where I can't see them as a romantic interest. Or, rather, the thought of something more than what we have is kind of frightening, in the sense that there's always the fear that something is going to get screwed up and awkward. Added to that is a level of comfort I have when I'm with people that I don't have any romantic interest in
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I feel obligated to add that even if a guy DOESN'T think he's gonna get laid, a little decent hygeine goes a long way. Criminy!
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Ah, but by what... or whom? That's the question...
Can't wait for the sequels.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you. I may need to get this on a T-shirt. Or maybe tattoo it across my forehead. Then, perhaps people will realize that when I forcibly remove their hands from various non-public-access parts of my body, it's not because I want the thrilling experience of them putting their hands there *again.*
Hm, there's another distinction for you - nice guys, in my experience, tend to understand physical contact as an end of its own, instead of assuming that everything from hugging to handholding is a prelude to immediate sex....
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Oi, ain't that the truth. If my arms and legs are crossed and I'm hunched over, that doesn't mean I want you to grab me and say you're just a cuddly guy. >_
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That's because it IS. An end of it's own, that is. I know some of my friends are obsessed with sexs like that; I know that as a guy supposedly I'm meant to be the same, that whole 'think about sex every few seconds' thing... But I don't. I think about GIRLS every few seconds/always, but... sex is kinda not that important.
My friends would say I'm nuts. I dunno.
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I'm tempted to post this to my own journal, with credit to you, but the many Nice Guys who alternate between pretending to be my friends and resenting and reviling me for not falling at their feet would be up in arms.
Then again, this might not be a bad thing.
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The bit about "tend to befriend women in order to date them" caught my eye. Isn't there a "are we just hanging out or are we going to date" period in most relationships?
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I absolutely Do Not Get the thing where some guys will absolutely REFUSE to date women who they are already friends with. I hold with the idea that if someone won't make a good friend, they definitely won't be good to date, because after the new-relationship-energy wears off, I won't be able to stand them. (Been there, done that, gave away the ring.)
Some of my worst dating disasters ever have been the ones where I was attracted to someone, jumped right in, and then figured out that they made a really lousy friend, let alone SO.
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