Love: the meaning, as best I can rationalize it.
So I've just had 2 conversations with 2 different friends of mine about the same topic. Both within the last 30 minutes, and I became so motivated to speak on the topic, that I decided I should post it on LJ. The topic was love.
So I'm talking to my first friend, who has never had a girlfriend before, and is wishing that he somehow could get one. He's another engineer friend of mine and he was saying that "[he]'s an engineer, [he] keeps on trying to understand women, and [he] just doesn't get them." I feel the need to make reference to the "feminine mystique" now, but I'll suppress that one. My other friend, who has been with numerous women to the point where he has been called a whore himself, was saying that he just is looking for that good feeling, the one that comes from being loved, and loving, being kind, and caring. For all the sex he's had, he's always been looking to cut through the mystique down to that basic, unconditional level.
Love is really the only thing I ever get spiritual about. It's the single thing that I don't want to try and rationalize down to the most basic human instinct. It is, in my mind, the single thing that could point me towards the belief in a supernatural power of some kind. Some people never find it, they find substitutes in other things where they have power and control. It's not about that. Some people look around and find people with money, others look around and find people with beauty who they don't care for. It's not about that. Love is unconditional, it knows no bounds, it needs no excuses, no pickup lines, no parties for people to hook up at, no erotic behavior, and no money. It requires two people who feel bound together deeply enough that they can almost hear their lover think, and feel. It happens when two people care for each other enough that they'd go to the ends of the earth, the universe too if possible, to be there for each other. That's what it's about. It's about caring.
I love you Lyssa. I don't know exactly where we're going, or how long it'll take to get there, but I know that I want to be there for the ride. I said that a bit more than 2 years ago, and I was much more confused then, I didn't totally understand yet. I still don't fully understand it all, but me typing it now is as true as when I said it that long ago.
So I'm talking to my first friend, who has never had a girlfriend before, and is wishing that he somehow could get one. He's another engineer friend of mine and he was saying that "[he]'s an engineer, [he] keeps on trying to understand women, and [he] just doesn't get them." I feel the need to make reference to the "feminine mystique" now, but I'll suppress that one. My other friend, who has been with numerous women to the point where he has been called a whore himself, was saying that he just is looking for that good feeling, the one that comes from being loved, and loving, being kind, and caring. For all the sex he's had, he's always been looking to cut through the mystique down to that basic, unconditional level.
Love is really the only thing I ever get spiritual about. It's the single thing that I don't want to try and rationalize down to the most basic human instinct. It is, in my mind, the single thing that could point me towards the belief in a supernatural power of some kind. Some people never find it, they find substitutes in other things where they have power and control. It's not about that. Some people look around and find people with money, others look around and find people with beauty who they don't care for. It's not about that. Love is unconditional, it knows no bounds, it needs no excuses, no pickup lines, no parties for people to hook up at, no erotic behavior, and no money. It requires two people who feel bound together deeply enough that they can almost hear their lover think, and feel. It happens when two people care for each other enough that they'd go to the ends of the earth, the universe too if possible, to be there for each other. That's what it's about. It's about caring.
I love you Lyssa. I don't know exactly where we're going, or how long it'll take to get there, but I know that I want to be there for the ride. I said that a bit more than 2 years ago, and I was much more confused then, I didn't totally understand yet. I still don't fully understand it all, but me typing it now is as true as when I said it that long ago.