There's a whole 'nother long story I don't feel like telling, but a somewhat similar circumstance of a friend basically ditching me happened last week. ( Read more... )
Your care packages when I was super down many years ago really brightened my life. I enjoy the time we do get to spend together, and understand that we are both super busy people that sometimes don't get to connect when I'm down for other things.
I would love to schedule another day of thrifting next time I'm in town, but I don't think you are a bad friend at all!
I am so very thankful that you are in my life as a friend, and am so glad I had the courage to say hi at SDCC those many years ago.
I'm going again this year... and to Dragon Con... so hopefully more fun times are ahead of us!
Thanks very much for the kind words of support, Jules. I am also totally down with thrifting at our next opportunity. Any idea when you might be back in SF?
I'm glad you said hi too!
We'll be thrilled to see you at DragonCon! It's easier there to hang out than in SD, but with any luck we can manage a drink together in SD too. *fingers crossed*
Friendships need to be tested before they are cemented. It is very easy to be friends with someone when there is little at stake - when you only see each other every so often. Friends that I can accept help from, that are there for me when I need them and that let me be there for them when they need someone are a much treasured commodity. Perhaps this "friend" didn't feel like she would have done the same for you, and had trouble accepting it from you.
People will do what people will do, and 99.9% of the time it doesn't have anything to do with what you did or said, or did not do or did not say. It sucks, I know; but I've known you for 16 years now, in many stages of development, and I can't say that in any of those years that you deserved being "dumped". So, probably it's her, not you, hon. You can't make everyone happy.
Hey, I guess we've known each other for a long time, huh? Thanks very much for the reassurance! After a lot of talk and thought, I'm coming around to also believing that it was all about her and not me, too.
>People will do what people will do, and 99.9% of the time it doesn't have anything to do with what you did or said, or did not do or did not say.
I am 100% in agreement with Rentraveler.
As for me, I treasure you as a very special bright bright light and I am glad we are (I think) still friends. The effort and personal stuff you put into your blog is just one example of the way you reach out to people and give, give, give. Just go back and read about all the people you are always making a special effort to help...
But yeah, the time we all spend with each other is a gift. It does not create obligation, though we do expect it to. If H has not done with your gifts what you would like, well, yeah, painful, but if you consider her behaviour toward you as sort a gift as well, meaning you can do with it what you like, then perhaps you ought not to beat yourself up over it.
Though it has provided a nice opportunity for reconnection with others that value you more, eh?
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I would love to schedule another day of thrifting next time I'm in town, but I don't think you are a bad friend at all!
I am so very thankful that you are in my life as a friend, and am so glad I had the courage to say hi at SDCC those many years ago.
I'm going again this year... and to Dragon Con... so hopefully more fun times are ahead of us!
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I'm glad you said hi too!
We'll be thrilled to see you at DragonCon! It's easier there to hang out than in SD, but with any luck we can manage a drink together in SD too. *fingers crossed*
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I'm working for Gwen at SDCC... so there should hopefully be hanging out time.
I haven't bought my DC badge yet... any chance you know someone who would need some help at a booth?
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I am 100% in agreement with Rentraveler.
As for me, I treasure you as a very special bright bright light and I am glad we are (I think) still friends. The effort and personal stuff you put into your blog is just one example of the way you reach out to people and give, give, give. Just go back and read about all the people you are always making a special effort to help...
But yeah, the time we all spend with each other is a gift. It does not create obligation, though we do expect it to. If H has not done with your gifts what you would like, well, yeah, painful, but if you consider her behaviour toward you as sort a gift as well, meaning you can do with it what you like, then perhaps you ought not to beat yourself up over it.
Though it has provided a nice opportunity for reconnection with others that value you more, eh?
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