chilled out.
alrighty. so during my stay up in kuranda with all the hippies (very fun indeed) i read a couple of books ... girly ones of course (my favourites), being 'trading up' and 'the bride stripped bare'. Both were absolutely awesome I thought, but then again, everyones opinion is different and really i credit anyone who is bright and dedicated enough to write a book. i think that's pretty incredible, and even better if its a good read. anywho, when i was reading through them, i discovered a few paragraphs or phrases or thoughts or whatever that i really liked, or i agreed with or which i though were smart or worth contemplation. I thought i might share to see what you think, or basically just cuz i want too.
-excerpt from 'trading up'
"Men can be notoriously simple in matters of the heart, and Selden Rose, unfortunately, was one of those men. blah blah blah... and in the single-minded way of men, he loved her (Janey Wilcox) simply because she 'was' - because she 'existed'- and because he could never quite possess her. He hadn't really wanted much from her - only that she love him a little and give way to his wishes now and then and stand by him. And with the irrational blindness of a man misguided by what he is convinced 'is' love, he still hoped that she loved him, too. For he honestly believed that if she did, despite the odds against them, they would manage to get through this together. When a man falls in love like this, a woman may abuse him terribly, and while he might eventually hate her or call her crazy, it's nearly impossible to convince him that this isn't true love.
But women are more complicated when it comes to their affections. They rarely love simply for what is - but for what might be, and more importantly, for how it might affect them. This is why a woman will endure a great deal of abuse in love -as long as she believes there is something to be gained. But when a woman sees that a man can no longer help her, when his actions become detrimental to her lifestyle, she can fall out of love as suddenly and as firmly as an apple falling from a tree. There is no putting the apple back on the tree, just as there is no going back in love."
and from "the bride stripped bare"
"A wife should take another man if her husband is dissapointing in the sack. A woman's badness is better than a man's goodness. Women are more valiant than men. Adam was more sinful than Eve."
and this...
"witness the man who loved a woman so wretchedly and dishonestly that he could not be at rest until he defiled her; he forced her to lie with him, and afterwards, to make up the measure of his wickedness, he hated her more than he loved her before."
"You're not sure, suddenly, what it was that bounded you to him. Infatuation, perhaps."
"He loved her too much. Would you really want someone who loves too much? How can you measure love, or indeed distinguish it, you wonder, distinguish it from infatuation, curiosity, crush? You'd always dreamed of being firmly at the centre of a man's life, but now it doesn't feel right. It's like being locked in an airless, windowless room."
"What could be more lonely, than loving someone too much?"
"It's no use waiting for the light to appear at the end of the tunnel, you just have to stride down and light the bloody thing yourself."
"those who eat too much should remember that they are robbing those who have not enough."
okay, so i may sound like some butchy, bra burning feminist, sharing some of those quotes up there, but the truth is im just cynical. There are a couple more that i liked but i think i'll share those some other time.
night night. x.
-excerpt from 'trading up'
"Men can be notoriously simple in matters of the heart, and Selden Rose, unfortunately, was one of those men. blah blah blah... and in the single-minded way of men, he loved her (Janey Wilcox) simply because she 'was' - because she 'existed'- and because he could never quite possess her. He hadn't really wanted much from her - only that she love him a little and give way to his wishes now and then and stand by him. And with the irrational blindness of a man misguided by what he is convinced 'is' love, he still hoped that she loved him, too. For he honestly believed that if she did, despite the odds against them, they would manage to get through this together. When a man falls in love like this, a woman may abuse him terribly, and while he might eventually hate her or call her crazy, it's nearly impossible to convince him that this isn't true love.
But women are more complicated when it comes to their affections. They rarely love simply for what is - but for what might be, and more importantly, for how it might affect them. This is why a woman will endure a great deal of abuse in love -as long as she believes there is something to be gained. But when a woman sees that a man can no longer help her, when his actions become detrimental to her lifestyle, she can fall out of love as suddenly and as firmly as an apple falling from a tree. There is no putting the apple back on the tree, just as there is no going back in love."
and from "the bride stripped bare"
"A wife should take another man if her husband is dissapointing in the sack. A woman's badness is better than a man's goodness. Women are more valiant than men. Adam was more sinful than Eve."
and this...
"witness the man who loved a woman so wretchedly and dishonestly that he could not be at rest until he defiled her; he forced her to lie with him, and afterwards, to make up the measure of his wickedness, he hated her more than he loved her before."
"You're not sure, suddenly, what it was that bounded you to him. Infatuation, perhaps."
"He loved her too much. Would you really want someone who loves too much? How can you measure love, or indeed distinguish it, you wonder, distinguish it from infatuation, curiosity, crush? You'd always dreamed of being firmly at the centre of a man's life, but now it doesn't feel right. It's like being locked in an airless, windowless room."
"What could be more lonely, than loving someone too much?"
"It's no use waiting for the light to appear at the end of the tunnel, you just have to stride down and light the bloody thing yourself."
"those who eat too much should remember that they are robbing those who have not enough."
okay, so i may sound like some butchy, bra burning feminist, sharing some of those quotes up there, but the truth is im just cynical. There are a couple more that i liked but i think i'll share those some other time.
night night. x.