marriage...yay or nay?
My aunt wants to marry this guy who sort of scares the crap out of me. I mean there was a "family meeting" and obviously I came late as usual, apparently they invited her prospective suitor along. I ended up taking the only empty seat left at the table which happened to be five feet away from the guy but directly across from him. Everyone else had been at the club for atleast an hour and half before me so I guess they were introduced and already talking but when I came the guy was just staring at me. Not even in like a polite way as to get a good look at me, no, he was down right staring staright at me with his big eyes popping out of their sockets. I got freaked out because this staring continued for more than a minute so I got up and left the table and walked around the club.
I came back about 20 minutes later and sat more or less next to the guy so he couldn't stare at me. lol. I though hey I'll give the guy another chance maybe he's not bad, my impression got worse. He started with his chauvanist idiocy. Women should stay at home and raise the children and serve her husband and they don't need college, why do they need such knowledge? So they can go out and work? no...a womans place is at home they don't need knowledge. And he had the nerve to say that women who work regret it when they turn 40. I was about ready to pour my water in his face, but I held my self for my aunt's sake. I didn't however hold my tongue. I told him that he was narrow minded and backwards and that he had better shut up before I shut him up because I am a feminist and I will not tolerate such nonsense from anyone. He let the issue slide
He said a lot of crap I didn't like but don't wish to repeat it will just make me mad again. According to my aunt he has strong opinions but he doesn't impose it on anyone. His previous wife works. But I dunno, I mean what is he going to teach his daughters if he has any, that they should be obedient slaves? No way any cousin of mine is going through that. Maybe I am biased but I doubt it. Maybe I just don't want anyone to replace my Waheed ( my aunts husband who died). He was more like a father to me than my own father. Maybe that is why I am blowing a fault out of proportion. Am I? I mean I want my aunt to be happy, she deserves it. But at the same time I have reservations about the guy, he will afterall be a part of my family, he will be the father of my cousins, don't I have a right to be sceptical?
I came back about 20 minutes later and sat more or less next to the guy so he couldn't stare at me. lol. I though hey I'll give the guy another chance maybe he's not bad, my impression got worse. He started with his chauvanist idiocy. Women should stay at home and raise the children and serve her husband and they don't need college, why do they need such knowledge? So they can go out and work? no...a womans place is at home they don't need knowledge. And he had the nerve to say that women who work regret it when they turn 40. I was about ready to pour my water in his face, but I held my self for my aunt's sake. I didn't however hold my tongue. I told him that he was narrow minded and backwards and that he had better shut up before I shut him up because I am a feminist and I will not tolerate such nonsense from anyone. He let the issue slide
He said a lot of crap I didn't like but don't wish to repeat it will just make me mad again. According to my aunt he has strong opinions but he doesn't impose it on anyone. His previous wife works. But I dunno, I mean what is he going to teach his daughters if he has any, that they should be obedient slaves? No way any cousin of mine is going through that. Maybe I am biased but I doubt it. Maybe I just don't want anyone to replace my Waheed ( my aunts husband who died). He was more like a father to me than my own father. Maybe that is why I am blowing a fault out of proportion. Am I? I mean I want my aunt to be happy, she deserves it. But at the same time I have reservations about the guy, he will afterall be a part of my family, he will be the father of my cousins, don't I have a right to be sceptical?