so... my 21st birthday...
All along, I guess I wasn't planning very well, but at the same time.. was pretty much thinking that my "friends" were on top of it. My birthday, that is. If anyone asked me what I was doing for my birthday, I pretty much said James is taking me out in the morning for breakfast and lunch with alcohol thrown in there also. He would drop me off at the mall around 2 (when my manager gets off of work) and then she would drive me, herself, Jellie, and Amanda to disneyland (because I got in free on my birthday) and we would hang out there until dinner time-ish. After that, we would go meet up with more people for dinner somewhere, and then after that whoever was 21 would go to the bars in downtown fullerton with me. And since we moved like 2 blocks away from DTF everyone could just walk there, so it would work out perfectly.
Come time for my birthday, James fulfills his part perfectly, I was starting to get buzzed from the drinks he bought for me at lunch, and then he dropped me off at the mall. During this time, however, Amanda is texting me, asking if we're still going to disneyland. I tell her yeah.. and she is all hesitant saying that she has a lot of homework she has to do. So I just say fine. I'll just go with Brittany (my manager), and Jellie. When I tell Jellie that Amanda isn't going anymore, she texts me saying "oh well, good, we should probably just go another time, becasue I'm really hung over anyways, and probably won't be able to go on any of the rides without throwing up. And I'm still in Hollywood and don't know when my friend is going to wake up to drive us back."
So i'm like.. wow.. this is really awesome.. two people who are supposedly good friends of mine are bailing on plans that we've had for like a month because they didn't plan better...
So I just text her back and say "it's fine, I'll just go with Brittany." ..I'm not about to let Jellie change my plans for me, because the whole point was going for my brithday and on my birthday, so I could get in for free...
Jellie ended up feeling guilty and said she'd go, but not surprisingly showed up about 2 hours after Brittany and I were already inside the park. Then close to 530 I get a text from Amanda telling me that I need to be back home by 630 because we're going to dinner and our friend Allie is coming with us. So I just ignore her text, because again, I'm not going to follow orders from Amanda, ya know? ...I was still hanging out at Disneyland, so we just continued with what we were doing and left around 7 and got home by 730.
I walk inside with Jellie, who I was barely able to convince to come to dinner with us, and Amanda is laying on her bed, not dressed, talking on the phone with her friend. Allie isn't there and our other roommate Vivian decides at the last minute that she guesses she'll go with us to dinner. I didn't know where I wanted to go, and decided on Chomp, but no one is here to go with us except me, Vivian, Amanda, and Jellie.
So we're at Chomp and I'm sort of looking at the drink menu before we got seated, but all it had on it was martinis which were $9 and I didn't want to really get one of those, so then when we got seated, the woman came around right away so I just ordered water. Next thing you know, we're ordering food and no one else ordered alcohol. Since I didn't want to be drinking alone, I didn't order any either, and no one said a word about the fact that I wasn't drinking on my 21st birthday. On top of that.. pretty much no one said a word during dinner. It was completely silent and awkward for 90% of us sitting there. And again, on top of that.. there just happened to be like 4 other people in the restaurant celebrating birthdays. So we're listening to birthday song after birthday song, and they start to realize that they should have said something to the workers about it being my birthday. So awkwardly, again, they're trying to mouth to each other from across the table to go tell the waitress, but neither of them want to get up, and I'm watching this whole thing knowing exactly what's up. Finally Jellie gets up to "go to the bathroom," and later, I get a cup of wipped cream with a cherry on top.
As terrible as that was, I was thinking that after, we'd go home and we could all go down to the bars, like I had been mentioning ever since we found out we were moving to DTF the day before my birthday. But we get home, and Lizzi, who is also 21, is looking like she's ready to go to bed, and at this point I'm not sure why she didn't feel the need to come out to my birthday dinner at Chomp. So I'm laying on my bed at 10pm on my birthday, and I'm completely sober with no plans of going out, and I feel so sad that my friends didn't plan on doing ANYTHING. I mean, Amanda only took me to dinner to try to make up for not going to Disneyland.
So I text James about all this, and he is mad at them for being crappy friends, and he feels bad for me, cause I mean, you only turn 21 once... So he asks if there's anything he can do, and I ask him to take me out to the bars. So he drives all the way out here and sadly, since it was a Sunday night, the whole area was so dead. We go into this one bar and there are maybe 4 people at the bar, but on the other end. The bartender ended up being a dick and kept ignoring us, so we left to try to find something else that was open. We walk all around Harbor and even up Commonwealth some, and we only find one place thats open and seems to have people in it. Palapa Grill. So we go in, plant ourselves at the bar, and start to drink. Again, all around us, people are out celebrating their birthdays, and all I can think about is how none of my friends gave a shit about what I was doing the night of my birthday, and that I'm sitting at a bar with one friend on my 21st birthday.
Besides James, I didn't get any of my friends to buy me drinks or shots, nor did I get strangers to buy me drinks or shots, because I'm just sitting there, me and James, and no group of friends with me to celebrate.
...Sorry this is so long... I just had a lot to vent.
And like, poor James, he's doing everything he can to make my birthday special and happy, but going to bars with just him and me only reminds me of the fact that I only have one friend aparently who cares about me. (Besides you :) but you're too far away). And if I would have known that the girls didn't give a shit, I would have let James take me out for the whole day.
What also bothers me, is that Amanda said she was too busy wth homework, but she was able to sleep till at least noon. And I came home to her on the phone, which I know was a long conversation, and when I left for the bars, she was out in the living room having another long phone conversation.
It bothers me, because I do so much for other people, and I'm the type of person to do whatever you want to do and drink as late at you want even if I have class really early the next day.
UGH!
Again, sorrrrrry its so long... haha..
Come time for my birthday, James fulfills his part perfectly, I was starting to get buzzed from the drinks he bought for me at lunch, and then he dropped me off at the mall. During this time, however, Amanda is texting me, asking if we're still going to disneyland. I tell her yeah.. and she is all hesitant saying that she has a lot of homework she has to do. So I just say fine. I'll just go with Brittany (my manager), and Jellie. When I tell Jellie that Amanda isn't going anymore, she texts me saying "oh well, good, we should probably just go another time, becasue I'm really hung over anyways, and probably won't be able to go on any of the rides without throwing up. And I'm still in Hollywood and don't know when my friend is going to wake up to drive us back."
So i'm like.. wow.. this is really awesome.. two people who are supposedly good friends of mine are bailing on plans that we've had for like a month because they didn't plan better...
So I just text her back and say "it's fine, I'll just go with Brittany." ..I'm not about to let Jellie change my plans for me, because the whole point was going for my brithday and on my birthday, so I could get in for free...
Jellie ended up feeling guilty and said she'd go, but not surprisingly showed up about 2 hours after Brittany and I were already inside the park. Then close to 530 I get a text from Amanda telling me that I need to be back home by 630 because we're going to dinner and our friend Allie is coming with us. So I just ignore her text, because again, I'm not going to follow orders from Amanda, ya know? ...I was still hanging out at Disneyland, so we just continued with what we were doing and left around 7 and got home by 730.
I walk inside with Jellie, who I was barely able to convince to come to dinner with us, and Amanda is laying on her bed, not dressed, talking on the phone with her friend. Allie isn't there and our other roommate Vivian decides at the last minute that she guesses she'll go with us to dinner. I didn't know where I wanted to go, and decided on Chomp, but no one is here to go with us except me, Vivian, Amanda, and Jellie.
So we're at Chomp and I'm sort of looking at the drink menu before we got seated, but all it had on it was martinis which were $9 and I didn't want to really get one of those, so then when we got seated, the woman came around right away so I just ordered water. Next thing you know, we're ordering food and no one else ordered alcohol. Since I didn't want to be drinking alone, I didn't order any either, and no one said a word about the fact that I wasn't drinking on my 21st birthday. On top of that.. pretty much no one said a word during dinner. It was completely silent and awkward for 90% of us sitting there. And again, on top of that.. there just happened to be like 4 other people in the restaurant celebrating birthdays. So we're listening to birthday song after birthday song, and they start to realize that they should have said something to the workers about it being my birthday. So awkwardly, again, they're trying to mouth to each other from across the table to go tell the waitress, but neither of them want to get up, and I'm watching this whole thing knowing exactly what's up. Finally Jellie gets up to "go to the bathroom," and later, I get a cup of wipped cream with a cherry on top.
As terrible as that was, I was thinking that after, we'd go home and we could all go down to the bars, like I had been mentioning ever since we found out we were moving to DTF the day before my birthday. But we get home, and Lizzi, who is also 21, is looking like she's ready to go to bed, and at this point I'm not sure why she didn't feel the need to come out to my birthday dinner at Chomp. So I'm laying on my bed at 10pm on my birthday, and I'm completely sober with no plans of going out, and I feel so sad that my friends didn't plan on doing ANYTHING. I mean, Amanda only took me to dinner to try to make up for not going to Disneyland.
So I text James about all this, and he is mad at them for being crappy friends, and he feels bad for me, cause I mean, you only turn 21 once... So he asks if there's anything he can do, and I ask him to take me out to the bars. So he drives all the way out here and sadly, since it was a Sunday night, the whole area was so dead. We go into this one bar and there are maybe 4 people at the bar, but on the other end. The bartender ended up being a dick and kept ignoring us, so we left to try to find something else that was open. We walk all around Harbor and even up Commonwealth some, and we only find one place thats open and seems to have people in it. Palapa Grill. So we go in, plant ourselves at the bar, and start to drink. Again, all around us, people are out celebrating their birthdays, and all I can think about is how none of my friends gave a shit about what I was doing the night of my birthday, and that I'm sitting at a bar with one friend on my 21st birthday.
Besides James, I didn't get any of my friends to buy me drinks or shots, nor did I get strangers to buy me drinks or shots, because I'm just sitting there, me and James, and no group of friends with me to celebrate.
...Sorry this is so long... I just had a lot to vent.
And like, poor James, he's doing everything he can to make my birthday special and happy, but going to bars with just him and me only reminds me of the fact that I only have one friend aparently who cares about me. (Besides you :) but you're too far away). And if I would have known that the girls didn't give a shit, I would have let James take me out for the whole day.
What also bothers me, is that Amanda said she was too busy wth homework, but she was able to sleep till at least noon. And I came home to her on the phone, which I know was a long conversation, and when I left for the bars, she was out in the living room having another long phone conversation.
It bothers me, because I do so much for other people, and I'm the type of person to do whatever you want to do and drink as late at you want even if I have class really early the next day.
UGH!
Again, sorrrrrry its so long... haha..