Biases
I have always thought that I was a broad minded person, - accepting, generous- with view points broader than an avergae person. When I came to the US, my ideas developed more. I thought i had grown even more as a person, and then my outlook had developed even more. But last few days I have found myself challenging this notion within me i.e. that I am not as broad minded as I thought I was. I am still looking for this answer. But here is how this thought came about.
I was watching an old talk show on youtube. This was an interview of the former Miss Universe who has adopted 2 girls and is raising them as a single mother. She is also well known for her frequent liaisons. There are rumors that the girls she claims to have adopted are her own children. I have always looked upto this lady for her grace, her charm, and her wit. But, watching that show, I was curious all over again - " Were those girls really her own children?", " What was she thinking?" etc etc. I googled , spent hours looking through gossip columns to find the" truth". And then it hit me.... What was i doing....
It was a brave thing that she was raising thes girls alone. Even if they were her girls, she had the courage to keep them with her and raise them and give them the best she could. Indian society looks at children out of wedlook with shame and disdain but then Indian society looks at many other things with shame, and disdain that I do not particularly care about. Infact, I hear them, and laugh them and try and convince my family to change their mindset.
So I have been debating this question in my head for a week. I am trying to introspect to find what are my other biases, the ones I never knew existed, and what can I do to get rid of them
I was watching an old talk show on youtube. This was an interview of the former Miss Universe who has adopted 2 girls and is raising them as a single mother. She is also well known for her frequent liaisons. There are rumors that the girls she claims to have adopted are her own children. I have always looked upto this lady for her grace, her charm, and her wit. But, watching that show, I was curious all over again - " Were those girls really her own children?", " What was she thinking?" etc etc. I googled , spent hours looking through gossip columns to find the" truth". And then it hit me.... What was i doing....
It was a brave thing that she was raising thes girls alone. Even if they were her girls, she had the courage to keep them with her and raise them and give them the best she could. Indian society looks at children out of wedlook with shame and disdain but then Indian society looks at many other things with shame, and disdain that I do not particularly care about. Infact, I hear them, and laugh them and try and convince my family to change their mindset.
So I have been debating this question in my head for a week. I am trying to introspect to find what are my other biases, the ones I never knew existed, and what can I do to get rid of them