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1. Of what on your resume are you most proud?
I think that the item I'm most proud of is "creating and maintaining library Excel database for 13 months". Not because I'm special for having done so; it certainly wasn't a complicated task at all. I'm proud of that because, unlike something that should be more momentous like winning an award for social activism, this single small bullet point took a year to earn. A year of the same task, maintaining it carefully. I rarely do anything for a year, and I'm quite proud of myself for that.
A small thing over a (relatively) long time, and to me that's something to be more proud of than any award.
2. What do you miss the most about not being in a couple and what's the best thing about being single?
The best thing is that I owe my time to nobody. I have the freedom to flirt with whoever I want, and don't have a curfew. I can, on a whim, pick up and go out, spend the whole evening with my friends and nobody can or will tell me otherwise. I have nothing that I need to remember and nobody that I could accidentally hurt with my flaky sort of inattentiveness.
That said, being in a couple gives me a sense of emotional security and stability. Being part of a couple is about spending time with someone you care about, and who cares about you in return. I do miss the quiet and subtle joys of an evening in with the girlfriend.
3. What things effect how feminine you feel on any given day?
I... suppose nothing does much, anymore. My attire certainly doesn't; I don't feel differently gendered wearing a dress, jeans, shorts, or a suit. I don't feel differently gendered in any activities, not even those that directly involve my genitals. Where I used to monitor everything based on how I felt about gender in relation to, now it's just all kind of normalized. I find that I can relate to those nontrans women who used to look at me utterly baffled as though the phrase "feeling more feminine" was at least three alien concepts.
I remember what it was like to feel more or less feminine on any given day, though. I suppose it's one of the phases of transition. At least, of my transition.
4. What are your boundaries as far as who you will or will not be with in an intimate relationship?
Good taste. I refuse to be in an intimate relationship with anyone who isn't a good and decent person with whom I also share mutual physical attraction. They need to be considerate and fairly kind. Understanding, supportive of others. Liars are right out, and anyone who would approach me under false pretenses of availability deserves no respect. Anyone who would judge me in any way on my trans identity is also right out, from fetishists to .
I need things in common with the person, something past that physical spark of lust. If I can't spend a night playing video games with a person, or have a serious discussion about Battlestar Galactica, or if they're not the sort of person I would invite to my D&D game, I probably can't date them. (Oh, if only I were more straight, that would simplify things. Men who fit those qualities are a lot easier to find.)
I prefer other women, but it's not a boundary as much as a preference. I prefer people my age, but I could be okay dating a 21-year-old or a 31-year-old if we're compatible.
5. How would you like to improve yourself?
I would like to have a better body: less fat, less muscle mass and more muscle tone, some genital surgery. Nothing terribly out of the ordinary. I'd like to have more money, possibly with my own place but preferably with a roommate. I'd like to live in a city, and while DC would be ideal, I could be happy anywhere in the mid-atlantic/new england region. I'd like to have a hobby that involves creating something tangible and durable. I'd like to get a masters degree, and/or a JD someday. I'd like to be married and have children someday, even though that might make my mother gleeful beyond belief.
I'd like to have faith in myself that I'm doing The Right Thing. Whatever that might mean at any given time.
I think that the item I'm most proud of is "creating and maintaining library Excel database for 13 months". Not because I'm special for having done so; it certainly wasn't a complicated task at all. I'm proud of that because, unlike something that should be more momentous like winning an award for social activism, this single small bullet point took a year to earn. A year of the same task, maintaining it carefully. I rarely do anything for a year, and I'm quite proud of myself for that.
A small thing over a (relatively) long time, and to me that's something to be more proud of than any award.
2. What do you miss the most about not being in a couple and what's the best thing about being single?
The best thing is that I owe my time to nobody. I have the freedom to flirt with whoever I want, and don't have a curfew. I can, on a whim, pick up and go out, spend the whole evening with my friends and nobody can or will tell me otherwise. I have nothing that I need to remember and nobody that I could accidentally hurt with my flaky sort of inattentiveness.
That said, being in a couple gives me a sense of emotional security and stability. Being part of a couple is about spending time with someone you care about, and who cares about you in return. I do miss the quiet and subtle joys of an evening in with the girlfriend.
3. What things effect how feminine you feel on any given day?
I... suppose nothing does much, anymore. My attire certainly doesn't; I don't feel differently gendered wearing a dress, jeans, shorts, or a suit. I don't feel differently gendered in any activities, not even those that directly involve my genitals. Where I used to monitor everything based on how I felt about gender in relation to, now it's just all kind of normalized. I find that I can relate to those nontrans women who used to look at me utterly baffled as though the phrase "feeling more feminine" was at least three alien concepts.
I remember what it was like to feel more or less feminine on any given day, though. I suppose it's one of the phases of transition. At least, of my transition.
4. What are your boundaries as far as who you will or will not be with in an intimate relationship?
Good taste. I refuse to be in an intimate relationship with anyone who isn't a good and decent person with whom I also share mutual physical attraction. They need to be considerate and fairly kind. Understanding, supportive of others. Liars are right out, and anyone who would approach me under false pretenses of availability deserves no respect. Anyone who would judge me in any way on my trans identity is also right out, from fetishists to .
I need things in common with the person, something past that physical spark of lust. If I can't spend a night playing video games with a person, or have a serious discussion about Battlestar Galactica, or if they're not the sort of person I would invite to my D&D game, I probably can't date them. (Oh, if only I were more straight, that would simplify things. Men who fit those qualities are a lot easier to find.)
I prefer other women, but it's not a boundary as much as a preference. I prefer people my age, but I could be okay dating a 21-year-old or a 31-year-old if we're compatible.
5. How would you like to improve yourself?
I would like to have a better body: less fat, less muscle mass and more muscle tone, some genital surgery. Nothing terribly out of the ordinary. I'd like to have more money, possibly with my own place but preferably with a roommate. I'd like to live in a city, and while DC would be ideal, I could be happy anywhere in the mid-atlantic/new england region. I'd like to have a hobby that involves creating something tangible and durable. I'd like to get a masters degree, and/or a JD someday. I'd like to be married and have children someday, even though that might make my mother gleeful beyond belief.
I'd like to have faith in myself that I'm doing The Right Thing. Whatever that might mean at any given time.