WHY???????????????????
Why does it seem that nice guys always get shafted no matter how hard they work and how much effort is put into something?
This question just gets to you soetimes when you wonder why things happen the way they do. Take this for example. There's only a few days left before my sister and I have to be out of this apartment and moved into our new places we've fought hard for the last few weeks, me especially. There's only one problem now. My sister still has her roommate but mine decided to up and split without telling me. What a shock to come to when you start bringing like your TV and VCR and other things you decided to take from your current bedroom and place into the new apartment and you see the person that had agreed to live with you totally just disappear and there's no note telling you why the decision to leave was made.
Well, the person I had allowed access to the apt when he arrived into Plattsburgh from Binghamton left without warning. I have a dry erase board on the wall in the living room that had the monthly expenses broken down where I only requested Rent and Cable to be split between us whereas I would take care of the Electric, my cell phone, my own Student Loan Payment (Not listed) and he would take care of his own cell phone and car insurance payment. His half of the board was erased and all of his belongings were gone. The only thing left in his room was a clear tote from my dresser like storage tote and a laundry bag I let him use until I was fully in the apartment and then he could have part of the dresser for his use and the laundry bag was his to use for his laundry to go to Washland or wherever he felt like going to do his wash.
I called him on his cell phone and left a voicemail. No callback when I said call back my cell phone. I then go up to the college and try to confront him. He just walks off while on his phone talking to his father. I follow him and he finishes talking to his dad. Do you think he would stop to answer my question? NOPE! He checks his voicemail and I swear he may have referred to me when said 'Nice msg, nice msg!' He walked up the stairs to the second floor where the Feinberg Library entrance is and he walked to Yokum. I sent him a txt msg from my cell phone 'Y U walking away?' No return msg. I go into Yokum Hall and try to find him. Can't find him at all. I walk out to the catwalk that crosses Broad Street and connects to Hudson Hall. I figure he may have gone to the water fountain cause his calss didn't start for another 15 minutes or so. Most people relax there. NOPE! I walk back and I see him across from his classroom entrance. I had two options at this point. I could have A) Gone back into Yokum, made a scene, and then probably be escorted off campus by UP. or do B) Leave and send an email to see what kind of response I would get. I did B and got no type of response back as of yet.
I just want to know why after I put 75% of the monetary funds towards the new apartment and all I got from him was $220, his half of the reduced rent of $440, and I get this type of treatment? If I hadn't gotten the apartment, he wouldn't have come up to Plattsburgh or learn the area as well as he did. He would have had no place to stay at all. He would stil be in Binghamton waiting for me to get a place secured. I feel used and abandoned after all of this. The September Rent is $505. I have until the 15th to pay it + $10 late fee for after 10 days. I might be able to pull it off, but then I will have to suffer a late credit card payment, a late payment on my student loans that I can't afford to miss a payment on, and I owuld lose about 3 weeks pay and cannot buy any food to eat. Not that I can't just find a way to get some food from friends and family, but I will be surviving on barebones cash flow. Sure I deliver newspapers now, but it only pays $48 per week as a profit since I am billed for the papers at cost and then deliver them at retail the customers I deliver to pay. Yields me about 93cents a paper and I have 52-53 papers a day.
There's only one factor I could see costing me a roommate. A friend my Xroommate didnt realize was going to school here until last Thursday. That should not have made a difference. I wanted to meet this friend but I never did. I was more than happy to welcome this friend into the abode as a great visitor. With what has transpired, am I not to think that this friend of his coaxed my Xroommate to move out and not let me know? The Plattsburgh State Banweb still has him listed at my new apartment for his local address. I sent him an email on Monday giving him until Friday to make up his miond whether or not he was going to return or not. Yes he left the key behind, but I am willing to give him a chance to make a decision that could either benefit him or cost him a friendship he never allowed to take its course. The other thing to mention is that this friend of his is someone he never got along with very well. He called it a relationship that was brotherlike. Always quarrelling but still doing things together. Everyone around me is upset with him and said I shouldn't have even toldhim he had a chance. It's just my nature to give people a second chance to correct a fatal mistake. If something happened between my Xroommate and his friend and he had nowhere to go...where could he go? He HAD a place to live. He HAD someone that respected him for who he was. He HAD someone that took time out of a day off that could have been used to for other important things like moving stuff in to show hm around the college campus where everything was for the classes he was taking. (Walked up from downtown to the Field House to the Angell Center to Yokum to Myers to the computer lab (he already knew where that was) and then he took off to find his friend. I didn't have a problem with that. I wanted to meet him and he was supposed to come into the lab. When my Xroommate went to locate him, I couldn't get a hold of him at all.
I guess trusting someone is too much. I have gone to some friends that I can really rely on and trust. 2 definitely can't do it. A third said he couldn't, but was unable to respond to my next IM about the situation. Someone else I COULD get to room with me may or may not be able to because she wants her two dogs and cat or she won't do it. I would have to renegotiate the pet section of the lease. It was approved for 2 cats (Mine and my Xroommate's). I wouldn't care if the rent went up an extra $30, but I need someone to help me with the rent. I had only asked for half of the cable since he would have been hooked up to the cable internet via router with his computer and I don't think it would have been too much to ask for.
As I finish my rant, one has to wonder...what will the final answer be as Friday looms close and I WILL be heading to Tupper Lake for the day? I guess when I get home, a decision will have been made and recalculations will have to be done.
This question just gets to you soetimes when you wonder why things happen the way they do. Take this for example. There's only a few days left before my sister and I have to be out of this apartment and moved into our new places we've fought hard for the last few weeks, me especially. There's only one problem now. My sister still has her roommate but mine decided to up and split without telling me. What a shock to come to when you start bringing like your TV and VCR and other things you decided to take from your current bedroom and place into the new apartment and you see the person that had agreed to live with you totally just disappear and there's no note telling you why the decision to leave was made.
Well, the person I had allowed access to the apt when he arrived into Plattsburgh from Binghamton left without warning. I have a dry erase board on the wall in the living room that had the monthly expenses broken down where I only requested Rent and Cable to be split between us whereas I would take care of the Electric, my cell phone, my own Student Loan Payment (Not listed) and he would take care of his own cell phone and car insurance payment. His half of the board was erased and all of his belongings were gone. The only thing left in his room was a clear tote from my dresser like storage tote and a laundry bag I let him use until I was fully in the apartment and then he could have part of the dresser for his use and the laundry bag was his to use for his laundry to go to Washland or wherever he felt like going to do his wash.
I called him on his cell phone and left a voicemail. No callback when I said call back my cell phone. I then go up to the college and try to confront him. He just walks off while on his phone talking to his father. I follow him and he finishes talking to his dad. Do you think he would stop to answer my question? NOPE! He checks his voicemail and I swear he may have referred to me when said 'Nice msg, nice msg!' He walked up the stairs to the second floor where the Feinberg Library entrance is and he walked to Yokum. I sent him a txt msg from my cell phone 'Y U walking away?' No return msg. I go into Yokum Hall and try to find him. Can't find him at all. I walk out to the catwalk that crosses Broad Street and connects to Hudson Hall. I figure he may have gone to the water fountain cause his calss didn't start for another 15 minutes or so. Most people relax there. NOPE! I walk back and I see him across from his classroom entrance. I had two options at this point. I could have A) Gone back into Yokum, made a scene, and then probably be escorted off campus by UP. or do B) Leave and send an email to see what kind of response I would get. I did B and got no type of response back as of yet.
I just want to know why after I put 75% of the monetary funds towards the new apartment and all I got from him was $220, his half of the reduced rent of $440, and I get this type of treatment? If I hadn't gotten the apartment, he wouldn't have come up to Plattsburgh or learn the area as well as he did. He would have had no place to stay at all. He would stil be in Binghamton waiting for me to get a place secured. I feel used and abandoned after all of this. The September Rent is $505. I have until the 15th to pay it + $10 late fee for after 10 days. I might be able to pull it off, but then I will have to suffer a late credit card payment, a late payment on my student loans that I can't afford to miss a payment on, and I owuld lose about 3 weeks pay and cannot buy any food to eat. Not that I can't just find a way to get some food from friends and family, but I will be surviving on barebones cash flow. Sure I deliver newspapers now, but it only pays $48 per week as a profit since I am billed for the papers at cost and then deliver them at retail the customers I deliver to pay. Yields me about 93cents a paper and I have 52-53 papers a day.
There's only one factor I could see costing me a roommate. A friend my Xroommate didnt realize was going to school here until last Thursday. That should not have made a difference. I wanted to meet this friend but I never did. I was more than happy to welcome this friend into the abode as a great visitor. With what has transpired, am I not to think that this friend of his coaxed my Xroommate to move out and not let me know? The Plattsburgh State Banweb still has him listed at my new apartment for his local address. I sent him an email on Monday giving him until Friday to make up his miond whether or not he was going to return or not. Yes he left the key behind, but I am willing to give him a chance to make a decision that could either benefit him or cost him a friendship he never allowed to take its course. The other thing to mention is that this friend of his is someone he never got along with very well. He called it a relationship that was brotherlike. Always quarrelling but still doing things together. Everyone around me is upset with him and said I shouldn't have even toldhim he had a chance. It's just my nature to give people a second chance to correct a fatal mistake. If something happened between my Xroommate and his friend and he had nowhere to go...where could he go? He HAD a place to live. He HAD someone that respected him for who he was. He HAD someone that took time out of a day off that could have been used to for other important things like moving stuff in to show hm around the college campus where everything was for the classes he was taking. (Walked up from downtown to the Field House to the Angell Center to Yokum to Myers to the computer lab (he already knew where that was) and then he took off to find his friend. I didn't have a problem with that. I wanted to meet him and he was supposed to come into the lab. When my Xroommate went to locate him, I couldn't get a hold of him at all.
I guess trusting someone is too much. I have gone to some friends that I can really rely on and trust. 2 definitely can't do it. A third said he couldn't, but was unable to respond to my next IM about the situation. Someone else I COULD get to room with me may or may not be able to because she wants her two dogs and cat or she won't do it. I would have to renegotiate the pet section of the lease. It was approved for 2 cats (Mine and my Xroommate's). I wouldn't care if the rent went up an extra $30, but I need someone to help me with the rent. I had only asked for half of the cable since he would have been hooked up to the cable internet via router with his computer and I don't think it would have been too much to ask for.
As I finish my rant, one has to wonder...what will the final answer be as Friday looms close and I WILL be heading to Tupper Lake for the day? I guess when I get home, a decision will have been made and recalculations will have to be done.