When I try to help out...
It always backfires. I tend to give worthy advice to most, if not all my friends. The majority take it.
Others... just don't, and keep complaining.
There was a situation a while ago with somebody I used to date recently. We broke up in good terms and I gave the advice of not compromising their own happiness for anybody else's. Give themselves time, space and the liberty to act upon their greatest desires and what they've been yearning for. What happens? They go back with their ex... back into the same hole they "try" to get out from. One of my best friends asked me how I felt. I told her I felt great, I wasn't the dumbass who got back with the ex who treated everyone like shit. Plus, it was more infatuation I had than anything else. No love involved.
Since I'm on that note, sometimes I think I'm incapable of loving anybody. Well, in a romantic way. Not that it worries me, I'm just not interested in relationships or meeting people. Many times I think I'm too good for a lot of people. Others might take it the wrong way, like previous 'friendships,' but I see it as a virtue. I save myself the trouble of seeing assholes every weekend, so it works out pretty well for me... but I digress.
Whenever someone asks for help, give them your best suggestions. If they don't ask for it, don't even bother. For your sake, just tell them in the future not to whine about their petty bullshit, because it is highly unwarranted and terribly boring. Believe me.
This is one of the reasons I don't talk to people out of my circle of trust. The less, the better.
Others... just don't, and keep complaining.
There was a situation a while ago with somebody I used to date recently. We broke up in good terms and I gave the advice of not compromising their own happiness for anybody else's. Give themselves time, space and the liberty to act upon their greatest desires and what they've been yearning for. What happens? They go back with their ex... back into the same hole they "try" to get out from. One of my best friends asked me how I felt. I told her I felt great, I wasn't the dumbass who got back with the ex who treated everyone like shit. Plus, it was more infatuation I had than anything else. No love involved.
Since I'm on that note, sometimes I think I'm incapable of loving anybody. Well, in a romantic way. Not that it worries me, I'm just not interested in relationships or meeting people. Many times I think I'm too good for a lot of people. Others might take it the wrong way, like previous 'friendships,' but I see it as a virtue. I save myself the trouble of seeing assholes every weekend, so it works out pretty well for me... but I digress.
Whenever someone asks for help, give them your best suggestions. If they don't ask for it, don't even bother. For your sake, just tell them in the future not to whine about their petty bullshit, because it is highly unwarranted and terribly boring. Believe me.
This is one of the reasons I don't talk to people out of my circle of trust. The less, the better.