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A lot of things going on since I last updated. My son has been getting into so much trouble. As most of you know I had grounded my son for having a girl in the shower, although grounding him has not worked. He leaves anyway. about a week and a half ago he was suppose to be grounded. I wasn't home, he left the house out of his bedroom window. He had all kinds of people over, set some fires one in a can in the garage and one outside. He was drunk and laying in the middle of the road. He was filling plastic water bottles and exploding them. Which caused the neighbours to get upset. My son said the neighbour waved a shovel at him so he got out a golf club. Police were called he was only given a warning. Some cars got spray painted. I found that the cement floor of the garage had paint on it. My son's friends were in the neighbour's garage. I was called over to the neighbours and given the details of what had happened according to them.
When I was driving my son back to the group home and told him that the neighbours would be calling the police if they did anything that they were not suppose to, and wanted to call his probation officer. He flipped. I was so scared. He threatened that he would do something or have someone do something to them if they caused him to not be able to come come. He said that this was his "turf" and he and his boys owned it, and that he knew people with weopons. It took me over two hours to finally calm down.
So anyway the next wednesday he came back home, was suppose to be grounded cause he never stayed ground from before, and he left again. Later we talked and came to an agreement on what types of punishments would be appropriate and ones that we both agreed would work. NOT
The very next day I told him he couldn't use my laptop (which I had taken away from him a few days before as a punishment. He just went in his sister's room and took it. I stood in front of him and put my hands on the computer to take it away from him. He refused to give it to me. He continued to drag me down the stairs(I was holding on the computer) I yelled for my brother who took hold of the laptop and finally my son let him have it, but not the power cord in which I was still holding onto. My brother took the laptop up to my room, while I was still trying to take the powercord. My son refused to let go and I tried to pry his fingers apart(with no luck) and I bent back his thumb. He yelled at me "Child abuse!" He yanked his hand and accidentally hit me in the face. I yelled to my brother we ended both going upstairs. My brother started to dial 911 but hadn't finished dialing it, my son ran downstairs to call the police who were already on the line when he picked up the reciever. He told the 911 operater that my brother and I were hurting him. I got on the line and told them what was actually going on. My son left and the police came.
I told the police that I was afraid of my son. When we were fighting over the computer you should of seen the look on his face. It was terrifying. They said to lock the doors and that I didn't have to let him back into the house, and that they had a warrent out for him.
My son called later to see what had happened and of course this was all my fault.We locked all the doors and windows so I thought. Only to find that my son had gotten in his room through the window and was sound asleep at 3:30 in the morning. In the morning he said he was leaving and left. Then returned. I didn't say anything to him. Monday he was to see his probation officer and the Children's Aid knew what had happened b/c I talked to him.
Later I overheard him yelling and swearing on the phone (Which he often does) then he left again. Two hours later the police called to say that they had arrested him because he was brandishing a knife during a consentsual fight. The next day he called and asked me to post bail. I said no and of course he said everthing he could to hurt me and things that I let make me feel guilty. I know it was to get me to do what he wanted me to do. My daughter tried to talk to him too. He said to her that he was going to kill himself to make me suffer if he didn't get out of where he was. We let the place know and he was on a suicide watch. There is alot more to this story but since I haven't updated it is getting quite long.
The children's aid are looking for temporary placement here while they are looking for permanent placement. My son called again last night to ask if I would post bail. I said no and told him what CAS was trying to do. He seemed happy about it. He just wants to be able to smoke.
All I know is I have given him too many chances and he refuses to follow the rules and my daughter and I are afraid of him. But saying this I will still be there for him.
When I was driving my son back to the group home and told him that the neighbours would be calling the police if they did anything that they were not suppose to, and wanted to call his probation officer. He flipped. I was so scared. He threatened that he would do something or have someone do something to them if they caused him to not be able to come come. He said that this was his "turf" and he and his boys owned it, and that he knew people with weopons. It took me over two hours to finally calm down.
So anyway the next wednesday he came back home, was suppose to be grounded cause he never stayed ground from before, and he left again. Later we talked and came to an agreement on what types of punishments would be appropriate and ones that we both agreed would work. NOT
The very next day I told him he couldn't use my laptop (which I had taken away from him a few days before as a punishment. He just went in his sister's room and took it. I stood in front of him and put my hands on the computer to take it away from him. He refused to give it to me. He continued to drag me down the stairs(I was holding on the computer) I yelled for my brother who took hold of the laptop and finally my son let him have it, but not the power cord in which I was still holding onto. My brother took the laptop up to my room, while I was still trying to take the powercord. My son refused to let go and I tried to pry his fingers apart(with no luck) and I bent back his thumb. He yelled at me "Child abuse!" He yanked his hand and accidentally hit me in the face. I yelled to my brother we ended both going upstairs. My brother started to dial 911 but hadn't finished dialing it, my son ran downstairs to call the police who were already on the line when he picked up the reciever. He told the 911 operater that my brother and I were hurting him. I got on the line and told them what was actually going on. My son left and the police came.
I told the police that I was afraid of my son. When we were fighting over the computer you should of seen the look on his face. It was terrifying. They said to lock the doors and that I didn't have to let him back into the house, and that they had a warrent out for him.
My son called later to see what had happened and of course this was all my fault.We locked all the doors and windows so I thought. Only to find that my son had gotten in his room through the window and was sound asleep at 3:30 in the morning. In the morning he said he was leaving and left. Then returned. I didn't say anything to him. Monday he was to see his probation officer and the Children's Aid knew what had happened b/c I talked to him.
Later I overheard him yelling and swearing on the phone (Which he often does) then he left again. Two hours later the police called to say that they had arrested him because he was brandishing a knife during a consentsual fight. The next day he called and asked me to post bail. I said no and of course he said everthing he could to hurt me and things that I let make me feel guilty. I know it was to get me to do what he wanted me to do. My daughter tried to talk to him too. He said to her that he was going to kill himself to make me suffer if he didn't get out of where he was. We let the place know and he was on a suicide watch. There is alot more to this story but since I haven't updated it is getting quite long.
The children's aid are looking for temporary placement here while they are looking for permanent placement. My son called again last night to ask if I would post bail. I said no and told him what CAS was trying to do. He seemed happy about it. He just wants to be able to smoke.
All I know is I have given him too many chances and he refuses to follow the rules and my daughter and I are afraid of him. But saying this I will still be there for him.