Keep yo pants on!

[dianagodessa]

Why would a man buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?

Seriously... My sister is rather slutty. She joined Match.com. She says she's too busy to search for a man. Um, ok. She has no job, so how is she busy?
There is nothing wrong with Internet dating. It has worked for many. She unfortunately seems to not know how to conduct herself like

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[karbear57]

The sad thing? She believes that her behavior is acceptable and will result in her happiness.

After reading (really? Are you kidding me? How is she not in prison?!) about her, that's all she wants: to be loved and accepted.

She's so critical about herself (the innappropraite relationship, the body building, the constant schooling, the lack of a job, the baby drama, the drinking, etc) that it letches into her relathionships. I feel like I totally understand her now and how FUCKED up she is and how she beats down everyone around her because she's really that miserable! I feel sorry for her. That's not how life should be. We shouldn't feel like we have to push each other down to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. I find myself at the best when I'm helping someone up (metephorically).

Is she in counseling? If not, she should. Everytime she pisses you off, you should tell her she needs counseling.

Hope she's using condoms, if not, who knows what type of STDs are running through her gapping hole. I can't even imagine being so out of control, I didn't know or care I was having sex with a stranger. To me, the I was drunk is just an excuse not to be responsible. She's just lying to herself...

[dianagodessa]

I've wanted to tell her the ugly truth many times, but can't bring myself to do it. I don't want to make her cry. She cries enough on her own. I agree that she does need therapy. She went for a little while a few years ago, but refused medication. She's all about homeopathic remedies. She's desperate for the romance in movies & deluded herself into thinking it happens to everyone. Love isn't easy or perfect. Marriage is hard & so is motherhood. I look forward to the moment I can laugh & say I told you so. I like to think I've reached a point that her put downs don't affect me as much as they once did. Just last night she insulted me because of how I was dressed (no make up, tank top, no bra, jean shorts that had the zipper down by accident) saying I have to take care of myself for my husband, blah blah blah. I shrugged it off seeing as my husband loves me & after 4 yrs of marriage still desires me. I'm lucky. She has meaningless sex with guys she meets online... Really? That's not a heathly sex life. Active? Sure. But far from healthy in any way.

Btw- Karen, you are awesome! You have such an intelligent mind & caring heart. Thank you for being my friend. :)

[karbear57]

I feel real bad for her skanky ass now.... she thinks THINGS are going to make her happy. Alcohol, sex, trophies, a boy friend, wedding, husband, baby.... if you aren't happy to begin with, no amount of accomplishments or stuff will make you happy.

Maybe it's because these past two years with all the medical SHIT that has rained down on me, but at a moments notice, my life can be flipped upsidedown and those things may augement my attitude, but it doesn't dictate it.

Looking back these nine years with all the crap that I've been through with the marriage, and everything that comes with it.... I truely believe it was my attitude that was the difference maker. I read a few books for my degree on attitudes and making someone else's day (FISH philosophy). It makes sense now... if I choose to allow some pretty awful things to bring me down then my life would be totally different. I would be divorced and Dan probably would be dead.