Co-worker drama
This has been a day of Work Drama-- not my usual "stuff" but something different.
One of my coworkers is currently not talking to me. This started just after Columbus Day when I returned from Palm Springs with some work mates. (This is the post that never was-- every now and then I'd like to post some happy shit. I guess it's not too late!) Since then, we haven't spoken. Twice in the last week or so she has made disparaging remarks about me to other co-workers. Yesterday she told our supervisor, whom I consider a Boss and a friend, that I had made negative work-related comments about her, namely that I work too hard and that she should try and help me out a bit more. (I admit I did say this and did feel this way. I voiced, nicely, my concerns with my Sup about this issue some time ago.)
However said "hating" coworker took it upon herself to say these things, unbidden, to the Boss. WTF?? At the start of the convo between them, she said she thought we, and another employee, were talking about her and laughing. Um, no-- we weren't talking shit about you this time! (Hell, we talk shit about a lot of people! I told my Sup that this is the job at which I have kvetched and griped the most. I don't like it! Normally, I am not a complainer, but it's like a disease or addiction. When others are doing it, it's easy to fall into doing it (more) yourself!)
There are any number of reasons why this coworker is behaving this way. The thing is that I really like(d) her! Now that I have heard what she is saying about me, or saying that I said, or revealing what I said, I am saddened. I've never had negative relationships with a coworker-- maybe I've been lucky so far. What she's done is hurtful and distrustful. I'm not sure how to behave around her when I see her again on Monday (and on into the future). Sigh.
One of my coworkers is currently not talking to me. This started just after Columbus Day when I returned from Palm Springs with some work mates. (This is the post that never was-- every now and then I'd like to post some happy shit. I guess it's not too late!) Since then, we haven't spoken. Twice in the last week or so she has made disparaging remarks about me to other co-workers. Yesterday she told our supervisor, whom I consider a Boss and a friend, that I had made negative work-related comments about her, namely that I work too hard and that she should try and help me out a bit more. (I admit I did say this and did feel this way. I voiced, nicely, my concerns with my Sup about this issue some time ago.)
However said "hating" coworker took it upon herself to say these things, unbidden, to the Boss. WTF?? At the start of the convo between them, she said she thought we, and another employee, were talking about her and laughing. Um, no-- we weren't talking shit about you this time! (Hell, we talk shit about a lot of people! I told my Sup that this is the job at which I have kvetched and griped the most. I don't like it! Normally, I am not a complainer, but it's like a disease or addiction. When others are doing it, it's easy to fall into doing it (more) yourself!)
There are any number of reasons why this coworker is behaving this way. The thing is that I really like(d) her! Now that I have heard what she is saying about me, or saying that I said, or revealing what I said, I am saddened. I've never had negative relationships with a coworker-- maybe I've been lucky so far. What she's done is hurtful and distrustful. I'm not sure how to behave around her when I see her again on Monday (and on into the future). Sigh.