Entitlement
Image via WikipediaDear All,
A phenomenon has surprisingly taken quite some time to come to my attention. Let me give you some examples:
- "I'm happy to be in a relationship"
- "You don't deserve to be a doctor"
- "I'm not very good at being bisexual"
- "Being a surgeon makes you unhappy"
There are all examples of this curious phenomenon of people seemingly treating characteristics and situational things as "stuff" that is owned, and furthermore, stuff that "makes" people happy and that you may or may not be entitled to.
Let me expose this rather insubstantial little lie. Things that are stuff are objects and in grammar, nouns. Characteristics are properties of the aforementioned "stuff" and so, adjectives. Relationships are not a "stuff", but rather a dynamic personal bond between individuals. "Stuff" cannot make people happy. Characteristics and relationships are also not things that you are or are not entitled to having. Emotions, characteristics and relationships exist because we work to achieve them or sometimes merely because we experience and are them. It's not a question of entitlement or ownership- it's a question of existence or non-existence.
You're either a tulip or you are not. You're either happy or you are not. Entitlement isn't really an option or a pre-requisite for "being".
So to all those people who think that they can commodify their marriage, career, kids, relationships, sexual orientation, race, friends by calling these things "stuff" that they "own" and "deserve" - get fucked. You do not even make logical sense.
Yours,
Deutschy, Three Times Deserved Winner of Happiness
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