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[desolated]

So my parents are coming again to the wedding. Last week they came over and said that since they think pam doesn't like them, they will not be going to my wedding. Also that my brother and sister would not be coming either. So I will have no family at to my wedding. This crushed Pam she didn't know where it was coming from and felt horrible

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[dinihart]

Jay, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds like they have some issues of their own to deal with and none of them have to do with Pam, or even you. I know they are your family but sometimes family take too many liberties and say some harsh accusations just because they feel they are entitled because of blood. Truth be told, I think they are taking advantage of you and treating you extremely unfairly and you don't have to take it, especially since they haven't supported you much in the past. The whole point of you two getting married all-inclusive was to avoid these costs and now your parents are telling you how cheap you are being?! It doesn't seem to make much sense that they should care at this point since they have threatened to skip your wedding a couple of times already. Call me selfish, but I think you need to think about your self and about Pam right now. Your relationship with her seems to be more positive then what they have ever given you.
I know you want them there because they are family, but honestly, you will have tons of happy memories if all the people who attend are there because they really want to be and because they support you and Pam and love you both.
I guess what I am trying to saying (and I hope I won't offend you) is, in the end being surrounded by positive people, regardless if they are family or not, is best and if your family change their minds again and don't come, perhaps it won't be such a huge loss.

Why did they kick you out? How old were you?

Oh and unfortunantely, not all parents want better for their children. Who knows if it is jealously, resentment or what?

You better post lots of pics!!

[desolated]

Ya I've been thinking that telling them that the next time they think they aren't coming they won't be invited anymore, and that will make the decision easy on them.

It was back almost 10 years ago now. I was 18, in my second year of college, while still living at home. They said I spent too much time hiding away in my room and I didn't talk to them and if I wasn't going to act like I was a part of the family then I should get out. I realize I wasn't super young or anything, but it still sucks.

I ended up crashing at a few different friend's places for a few months till moving into an apt. and I also ended up dropping out of college because I needed full time work to pay for a place to live and eat.

In hindsight I guess I could have tried for some government handouts to stay in school, but I didn't think I would get anything since my parents were getting lots of money from the gov already for my schoolling from their RESP they had set aside for me, but then they kept the money once I started at school.

[dinihart]

What the hell??

And that's a dumb reason to kick you out. You were young enough and not financially stable since you were TRYING to educate yourself.

I don't understand............

Be happy :)