Having a bridezilla moment...
Ok... All this wedding stuff is rapidly becoming very un-fun. There are just so many little things and points of drama... I'm just at the point where I want to say "Ok, someone else do this now because I don't care anymore!"
I was going to say that things were going a little better. My dress came in on May 21st and I had my fitting on the 22nd. Luckily it fit beautifully and everything looks great (I'll post some pictures when I get a chance). I also had my hair trial that day and that went well too. Was freaking out a lot about a week ago, because I thought I had too much left to do, but as of yesterday I was beginning to think I had it under control. Then today hit...
First my future mother in law calls me up while I'm driving to get our marriage license during my lunch break. She has offered to fold the favor boxes we ordered into proper shape (we ordered from the internet and they came folded flat) and place a label on each one. These labels have our wedding date on them and a thank you and they arrived here last week. So today she called me to say that she noticed the favors don't have our names on them and this was very bad etc. I had noticed that too, but figured I had bigger things to worry about than how the favor boxes were labeled (especially considering those boxes will most likely just be thrown out after the guests finish the cookies in them). Future mother in law wanted me to check the website where we ordered the labels to see if they had an express shipping option so that we could re-order them at her expense. Not a huge deal, but turns out the fastest shipping for that website is 7 days. Won't work. So she said she would try to figure out a way. No big deal, out of my hair.
Then later today I was trying to finish up the seating chart so I can get all the names and tables to my dad, who is printing out the place cards. Now one of my bridesmaids has a son who is a year old. Originally she told me she planned to only bring him to the church and not the reception, as she was worried about him running all over the place. Yet today I found out that she is indeed planning on bringing him to the reception. The problem with that is that we already made a seating chart that we thought would work great. It took care of all the weird little dramas in families and tried to seat people at tables where they knew someone else. Yet now we have to find room for the 1 year old to sit at a table with his grandmother... And that table is currently full. I fully admit to bitching at my mom about this whole situation, mainly because she was adding to my stress at the time. We've figured out a way to make it work, but it puts a couple at a table where they don't know anyone. I guess it's better than nothing...
Then... We've been getting more no's than originally expected, as I mentioned before. About half the guest list said no. So we were expecting 150 or more, but now our total is 120. Nine of those are either teenagers or infants, though, and so either won't be eating at the buffet, using the bar or both. The problem here is that we have a minimum amount of money we have to spend on food and drink. If we'd had 150 attend, we would meet that. But I just ran the numbers and we are about $2000 short. We can bump things up (more open bar, more hors duerves, and extra entree) to meet that requirement, but it would be a lot of extra stuff. To rub salt in the wound, if we'd decided to marry before memorial day (you know, when it was nice and warm and dry all month?) we wouldn't have that minimum to meet. Thus we'd save that $2000. (Ironically we're about $2000 over budget right now too) So I'm kicking myself and stressed about that.
To make matters worse, my period started today. Which by itself isn't a horrible thing. I'd rather have it now than next week (wedding) or the week after (honeymoon). It just adds to things because it makes me extra bitchy at the moment. I've been fairly calm up to this point too. Blarg. Anyway, yeah...
I was going to say that things were going a little better. My dress came in on May 21st and I had my fitting on the 22nd. Luckily it fit beautifully and everything looks great (I'll post some pictures when I get a chance). I also had my hair trial that day and that went well too. Was freaking out a lot about a week ago, because I thought I had too much left to do, but as of yesterday I was beginning to think I had it under control. Then today hit...
First my future mother in law calls me up while I'm driving to get our marriage license during my lunch break. She has offered to fold the favor boxes we ordered into proper shape (we ordered from the internet and they came folded flat) and place a label on each one. These labels have our wedding date on them and a thank you and they arrived here last week. So today she called me to say that she noticed the favors don't have our names on them and this was very bad etc. I had noticed that too, but figured I had bigger things to worry about than how the favor boxes were labeled (especially considering those boxes will most likely just be thrown out after the guests finish the cookies in them). Future mother in law wanted me to check the website where we ordered the labels to see if they had an express shipping option so that we could re-order them at her expense. Not a huge deal, but turns out the fastest shipping for that website is 7 days. Won't work. So she said she would try to figure out a way. No big deal, out of my hair.
Then later today I was trying to finish up the seating chart so I can get all the names and tables to my dad, who is printing out the place cards. Now one of my bridesmaids has a son who is a year old. Originally she told me she planned to only bring him to the church and not the reception, as she was worried about him running all over the place. Yet today I found out that she is indeed planning on bringing him to the reception. The problem with that is that we already made a seating chart that we thought would work great. It took care of all the weird little dramas in families and tried to seat people at tables where they knew someone else. Yet now we have to find room for the 1 year old to sit at a table with his grandmother... And that table is currently full. I fully admit to bitching at my mom about this whole situation, mainly because she was adding to my stress at the time. We've figured out a way to make it work, but it puts a couple at a table where they don't know anyone. I guess it's better than nothing...
Then... We've been getting more no's than originally expected, as I mentioned before. About half the guest list said no. So we were expecting 150 or more, but now our total is 120. Nine of those are either teenagers or infants, though, and so either won't be eating at the buffet, using the bar or both. The problem here is that we have a minimum amount of money we have to spend on food and drink. If we'd had 150 attend, we would meet that. But I just ran the numbers and we are about $2000 short. We can bump things up (more open bar, more hors duerves, and extra entree) to meet that requirement, but it would be a lot of extra stuff. To rub salt in the wound, if we'd decided to marry before memorial day (you know, when it was nice and warm and dry all month?) we wouldn't have that minimum to meet. Thus we'd save that $2000. (Ironically we're about $2000 over budget right now too) So I'm kicking myself and stressed about that.
To make matters worse, my period started today. Which by itself isn't a horrible thing. I'd rather have it now than next week (wedding) or the week after (honeymoon). It just adds to things because it makes me extra bitchy at the moment. I've been fairly calm up to this point too. Blarg. Anyway, yeah...