Update on Starlyn and other things
Yep, it is official!! Starlyn is out of my Life now Forever.. It appears she set this whole thing up just to off-balance me and create havoc in my life. The other thing this did do was it brought clarity to some of the things in my life I was turning a blind eye to with the hopes, time would correct them. I guess in some respects, it did, but this lesson was rather a bitter pill!! First, I had, had my partner(business) accompany me to California to help me discern the situation. I was thinking another set of eyes and ears similar in nature to mine that I could draw on for advice and clarity. WELL IT WORKED!!! Not how I expected though. Yes, he did give me discernment and clarity but, totally in the opposite direction I expected. When everything blew up at my house with Star, she took refuge at Howie's house where she proceeded to weave a scenario of me, being the bad guy and Howie bit, hook, line and sinker. She can be convincing for a short period by being nothing but sweet and innocent but, she can only keep it up for finite periods before her mind can't sustain it. Well, she had that situation. She had to only keep it up for 2 days and during that time, she played the perfect martyr... She would serve him High Tea and be just Sweet as Pie. Everyone that was either in his house or came to visit was shown the perfect model of a woman and a suffering daughter.. Now, I expected more out of Howie (that was my mistake), after all, he's known me for just shy of 4 years and he met Star, for the first time, just the week before. I got a call from Star the day before she was to return to Cali, telling me she and Howie were going to come get her stuff, I told her not to worry I would bring her stuff to Howie's, which I did.. WHen I got there, I unloaded her stuff and was talking to Andrea on the phone so I opted to stay outside til I finished the conversation. This decision was based on 2 factors 1.) I could see by a car parked at Howie's that Kayla(another trainwreck similar to Star) was visiting and 2.) no one else needed to hear my conversation with Andrea(even though it wasn't about Star). Before I got off the phone, Howie comes out of the house, looking nervous, conversation very stilted so, I surmised it was not a good idea for me to extend my visit and come in the house. So, I left... I no sooner get home and I have another call from Andrea, telling me Star has just flamed me on Face Book for "Not even coming in to say goodbye" and "HELL NO, she wasn't going to give a puppy to an ABUSIVE JUNKIE"!!! WoW!!! OK, I get it, she was going to play the part til the end. I relied on my partner to smooth this over and try to help her see reason in this situation. He assured me he would talk to her and make sure she actually understood the situation. oh well, in all this, the folks that were supposed to come get her evidently flaked out so, Howie decided to take her back to California himself, using the van he had told me would not make it that caused me to go out and rent a vehicle for the original trip. One of the things I asked him was could he at least come over and talk to me before he made the trip. He assured me he would so. Anyway, after many texts that evening, he finally went dark and the only communication from him(after 2 days of inquiry's) was late in the evening, he finally answered me he was just leaving L.A. I said ok, talk to you when you get back. 2 more days go by and I was talking to someone else that knew him and was informed when I told him that I knew he was worn from the trip and not to try to contact him til the next day, he pipes up and say "Oh no, he was up and very active last night, at home"!!! So, after many text's un-answered, I decided to drive out and see him. I took Erin with me just as an outside observer to make sure I understood what was going on and didn't let my emotions rattle me in a way that was wrong. When we left there we both had the same impression, he was agitated and was not forth coming on the trip or Starlyn. Even to the point he was point the finger at me as the only reason the situation did not succeed!!!! On a subsequent visit to his house(again with Erin in tow), to discuss some projects we were working on, he was condescending even to the point of being verbally antagonistic so, I cut my losses and left, feeling uneasy and disappointed. I now have been reviewing things in my head, even going back to before Dottie died and realized, he has been half-assing me for a long time. Giving me wrong information, sending me down blind paths offering help but, then, not ever showing, leaving me to work the situation out for myself. I am bewildered, saddened, and hurt. I thought we had the perfect partnership. Looking back, I can now see, his efforts have been half assed or non-existent in many cases. Things that actually made my situation worse and almost crashed me in a couple of instances!! Time for another change, I guess. I had been warned by others about him and especially when it came to women.. I had ignored those warnings because, I thought we were mentally on the same page. Oh, Well!!