What is WRONG with people?!?!?!??? >.< *snarl, hiss, fit, kick, MAIME*

[delicate_terror]

I swear to friggin' god, I hear of one more of my friends getting engaged, I'ma scream. >.< I just found out yet another friend of mine is engaged. @.@ WHYYYY??? We're only teenagers!!! NO one knows a person well enough after less than a year of dating to want to spend the rest of their life with them!!! I mean, c'mon people! Wake up! >.< Fuckin'

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[uncannydanny]

It's so easy to think that love is something magical, something that transcends our own mortal limitations and pesists even in the face of this mundane reality that we live in. Some people are eager to find release in the concept of love as something that isn't directly related to them, something all powerful that they're merely tools or pawns of; in doing so they let themselves believe that they don't carry a burden of responsibility for the relationship, that what they get isn't measured by what they put in.

I'd like to believe that it would be possible not to grow tired of someone or that the feeling that you get from being with that person doesn't eventually go away, but that would only be denying the truth. Love is, above all, determination, a commitment to one another against all obstacles. It's for that reason that arranged marriages in other countries do so well; even though they don't necessarily have the same random meeting, they commit themselves to one another and the relationship thrives. Selflessness and a heart that's willing to deny itself even the possibility of infidelity as an option, along with other things that might get in the way, is the only real way for a relationship to last, no matter who it's with.

..and boy, can I digress, or what? I think you're right, that people are getting into things much too early before they have a chance to realize just what they're doing. Not to mention not really knowing the person they're doing it with. But that's what happens when people get swept away by things, isn't it? Perhaps it's so difficult to leave those things because in the passion of having a love they've projected their own desires onto the person, and use the other to make those dreams more accessable, to make those lofty goals of a real prince charming something that they can see and hear and touch. Even if it isn't real. In the end, to give it up they'd have to give up a part of themselves, and very few are willing to admit that their deepest, secretmost longings within their heart are meaningless nothings.