On the topic of embracing your feminine side
Lately, I've been frequently visiting Yahoo! Answers and answering a lot of opened questions about lolita fashion. I think I'm addicted to helping others, and I'm actually enjoying it - even the ones that are asking about a dress on Milanoo (or an answerer would suggest shopping at Milanoo e_e). Today, I stumbled upon something that wasn't related to lolita at all, yet ended up on my saved question search.
I want to start wearing baby doll dresses and skirts but in a cute asian way i suppose any ideas with hair i was thinking straight bangs? idk where i could shop to get these dresses i just want to wear more dresses and stuff any help... thanks and kinda like lolita type
i just really really want to get of this stage and feel more feminine...
-Stefani
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Here's my reply:
There are many ways to embrace your feminine side and sometimes you don't even have to change fashion tastes (don't worry, I was in a similar situation when I was younger; I used to hate dresses and was a total otaku and tomboy, but now I'm a full fledged lolita yet I'm still nerdy as hell...even when I'm not in frills and pwning bosses in video games -or cheering for my favorite football team - a lot of my guy friends still find me feminine - I suppose it's all about being comfortable about whom you are).
If you do want to change styles, however, I suggest you do some research to see what you like (there are TONS of styles out there on the streets of the world), experiment as you discover your own preferences/style, and take your time - change doesn't always come quickly. Now, you mentioned that you want to try something in a "cute Asian way" - this will be a little tough because Asia is a huge continent and every urban fashion center has their own signature looks. What's popular in Beijing may not be seen on Seoul (for some reason, hip hop fashion is popular there) or Tokyo - and even in Tokyo, there are various wards that usually defines what's popular (ex: Shibuya is famous for high end brands and the gyaru sub-culture, whereas, although it's dying out due to tourism, crazy stuff like lolita, v-kei, and cosplay is generally seen in Harajuku). On another note, aside of changing styles, you may also want to learn how to dress to flatter your figure:
http://www.myshape.com/
So even if you prefer not to wear something that's full or frills and lace, at least you'll still look good for wearing that fits your body well.
Here are a few of my favorite online places to visit for my own closet inspiration:
http://www.style-arena.jp/en/
http://www.stylites.net/
http://www.korean-fashion-online.com/
http://www.asiajam.com/
http://maruione.jp/
A lot of Asian street fashion is inspired by the Europeans:
http://streetpeeper.com/
http://community.livejournal.com/my_quai…
http://www.hel-looks.com/
Like I said earlier, embracing your feminine side doesn't necessarily mean changing from grunge to glam fashion...sometimes embracing that side is to have a change of mindset, like going out to appreciate little things like flowers or eying something pretty on a store's window display. Still, whatever you decide to do, and however you want to do it, just remember that you're only doing it for yourself :)
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I'm not sure if she'll accept my answer, and perhaps my answer is wrong to the eyes of others, but I really wanted to share this input. I just hope that it becomes any use to anyone reading this.
I want to start wearing baby doll dresses and skirts but in a cute asian way i suppose any ideas with hair i was thinking straight bangs? idk where i could shop to get these dresses i just want to wear more dresses and stuff any help... thanks and kinda like lolita type
i just really really want to get of this stage and feel more feminine...
-Stefani
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Here's my reply:
There are many ways to embrace your feminine side and sometimes you don't even have to change fashion tastes (don't worry, I was in a similar situation when I was younger; I used to hate dresses and was a total otaku and tomboy, but now I'm a full fledged lolita yet I'm still nerdy as hell...even when I'm not in frills and pwning bosses in video games -or cheering for my favorite football team - a lot of my guy friends still find me feminine - I suppose it's all about being comfortable about whom you are).
If you do want to change styles, however, I suggest you do some research to see what you like (there are TONS of styles out there on the streets of the world), experiment as you discover your own preferences/style, and take your time - change doesn't always come quickly. Now, you mentioned that you want to try something in a "cute Asian way" - this will be a little tough because Asia is a huge continent and every urban fashion center has their own signature looks. What's popular in Beijing may not be seen on Seoul (for some reason, hip hop fashion is popular there) or Tokyo - and even in Tokyo, there are various wards that usually defines what's popular (ex: Shibuya is famous for high end brands and the gyaru sub-culture, whereas, although it's dying out due to tourism, crazy stuff like lolita, v-kei, and cosplay is generally seen in Harajuku). On another note, aside of changing styles, you may also want to learn how to dress to flatter your figure:
http://www.myshape.com/
So even if you prefer not to wear something that's full or frills and lace, at least you'll still look good for wearing that fits your body well.
Here are a few of my favorite online places to visit for my own closet inspiration:
http://www.style-arena.jp/en/
http://www.stylites.net/
http://www.korean-fashion-online.com/
http://www.asiajam.com/
http://maruione.jp/
A lot of Asian street fashion is inspired by the Europeans:
http://streetpeeper.com/
http://community.livejournal.com/my_quai…
http://www.hel-looks.com/
Like I said earlier, embracing your feminine side doesn't necessarily mean changing from grunge to glam fashion...sometimes embracing that side is to have a change of mindset, like going out to appreciate little things like flowers or eying something pretty on a store's window display. Still, whatever you decide to do, and however you want to do it, just remember that you're only doing it for yourself :)
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I'm not sure if she'll accept my answer, and perhaps my answer is wrong to the eyes of others, but I really wanted to share this input. I just hope that it becomes any use to anyone reading this.