On my mind
I think people forget it's the little things that count. The little things that matter. They are things that are the foundation of relationships. It's the phone call to say you're thinking of them. The note on their car to say hi and that they'll call you later. And they actually do call you later. It's when they stop by because they're going to get ice cream and want to know if you wanna come with. It's not feeling like you're the one who's always calling them. It's a Christmas card with a personal greeting, or maybe even just a Christmas card at all. It's a hug even though you're fine and having a good day. It's a hug when you're miserable and having a bad day. It's knowing when to give advice and when the person just wants to be heard. It's staying up a few extra minutes to talk even though you're practically already asleep. It's staying up all night talking, gossiping and doing basically nothing. It's the secrets they keep. It's the honesty about what they're thinking and feeling. It's being there when you need them, or trying to, or even at least truly wanting to. It's pouring the other person's glass before yours. It's complimenting them on something even though you've seen them in that shirt a million times. It's noticing that they look different in the shirt for who knows what reason. It's stuff like that. Sometimes I think people forget how important little things like that are and they stop doing them. I've seen it happen in alot of my relationships, usually romantic rather than friendship because things like that are more critical in romantic relationships, or at least, I'm more critical of them happening. Friendships are based on a mutual understanding of the other person, trust, honesty, and things like that. Romantic relationships are all that plus the sexual and romance part of it. I need both. Especially the romance. The romance is what makes it different from friends. It's the little things that make you feel special. That make you know that you're the only one for that person. Reminding someone how you feel about them has never hurt either. I guess what I'm saying is, don't forget to make the one you love feel special. Don't let them wonder how you feel. Don't forget to do those little things because someone is willing to take your place. Someone is willing to make them feel special all the time. And maybe they don't want that other person too, because if they're with you, they probably don't, but they can't stay forever in a relationship where the other person doesn't want to put in the little extra effort to make them feel special.