o don't get me wrong....he surprises me sometimez, but i think it would be a helluva lot sweeter if he chose to do somethingz on his own without me having to ask him...
what do i do for him?
I regularly... -take him coffee at work in the morningz when he starts at 5am -bring him cigarettes or lunch at work -bake him browniez, cupcakez, cakez, cookiez, etc, when i feel like cooking (which is like once every week or once every two weeks. -i cook him dinner about 3 or 4 nitez a week, whatever he would like -i take his car to get serviced when it needz to be done -i go to school for him and pick up assignments or books (his school is like, 45 minz away). -when there is a family function, he callz me a half hour b4 it starts and asks me to come, meaning i have to stop whatever i'm doing and do it. -if there is a school function, he asks me to go and i do, because he doesn't want to go by himself...
and there's much more that i do for him, but i do it because i want to, and sometimez i feel like he doesn't appreciate it. i know he Loves me, and i Love him very much also, but sometimez i feel like he takes me for granted...and some people have told me to stop doing all this nice stuff for him, but i feel like if i do, there won't be that little bit of magic and cuteness in the relationship. I do everything for him because i like to. The romance hasn't died because i try not to let it. But i don't feel like he's doin his part all the time. I feel like everytime i need him, i have to BEG him to come....i mean, i just wish that he would act like he wanted to do whatever with me. Instead of acting like it's a fucking chore. geez...what's wrong with me? any suggestionz?
well, let me first say that you do way more than any guy should and/or would expect. That's way out of your way to do the things you listed..Very thoughtful and very caring. I think you are one of the only girls that would do that all the time b/c you enjoy to. It sounds like he's used to you doing these things, and in return he doesn't meet you even half way...that goes with the whole feeling like its a chore to go with you or whatever. I think maybe you should not stop what you do, so it does keep that whole thing in motion, but i think you should maybe not do it as much, and then when he notices it, bring it to his attention, and maybe he'll realize all the things you do, and in turn he will be more appreciative and spontaneous for you.
holy shit...your completely right. seriously, i don't know what i'm thinking sometimez...i guess you just gotta hear it from another person in order to actually realize that you can change thingz and the outcome will be different. thanx hun.
*here's the lastest*...his parents are going away for a few dayz, so we have the house to ourselves. I'm staying over there tomorrow nite, and he called me a little while ago and said that he was going "shopping" and i asked "for what" and he said he's going out to get me a couple surprises because we haven't had the chance to spend the night alone together in like, months. so there is some improvement....
yeah, I mean from what you were telling me, it was kinda obvious, but to you it wouldn't be , ebing that you are in the situation, and that tends to blind one.
Has anything happened since you posted about his parents leaving? Sounds like he has/had a plan for you guys.
what do i do for him?
I regularly...
-take him coffee at work in the morningz when he starts at 5am
-bring him cigarettes or lunch at work
-bake him browniez, cupcakez, cakez, cookiez, etc, when i feel like cooking (which is like once every week or once every two weeks.
-i cook him dinner about 3 or 4 nitez a week, whatever he would like
-i take his car to get serviced when it needz to be done
-i go to school for him and pick up assignments or books (his school is like, 45 minz away).
-when there is a family function, he callz me a half hour b4 it starts and asks me to come, meaning i have to stop whatever i'm doing and do it.
-if there is a school function, he asks me to go and i do, because he doesn't want to go by himself...
and there's much more that i do for him, but i do it because i want to, and sometimez i feel like he doesn't appreciate it. i know he Loves me, and i Love him very much also, but sometimez i feel like he takes me for granted...and some people have told me to stop doing all this nice stuff for him, but i feel like if i do, there won't be that little bit of magic and cuteness in the relationship. I do everything for him because i like to. The romance hasn't died because i try not to let it. But i don't feel like he's doin his part all the time. I feel like everytime i need him, i have to BEG him to come....i mean, i just wish that he would act like he wanted to do whatever with me. Instead of acting like it's a fucking chore. geez...what's wrong with me? any suggestionz?
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*here's the lastest*...his parents are going away for a few dayz, so we have the house to ourselves. I'm staying over there tomorrow nite, and he called me a little while ago and said that he was going "shopping" and i asked "for what" and he said he's going out to get me a couple surprises because we haven't had the chance to spend the night alone together in like, months. so there is some improvement....
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Has anything happened since you posted about his parents leaving? Sounds like he has/had a plan for you guys.
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