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Here is a bit of information that may be useful to all the boys out there. This one usually takes guys about three years with one girl to figure out, but I'm giving you a heads up.
When girls say, "Jeez, my back/knees/head hurts so bad" the correct response is, "That sucks. Is there anything I can do?" The answer you will receive 90% of the time is "No."
So you're thinking, "Why the hell would she tell me her back hurts if she didn't want me to do anything about it?" Because if it comes to the front of her brain, she is going to say it. She doesn't ALWAYS have an agenda in saying something. It's an inane comment like, "Wow, the sky is blue today." She wants you to acknowlege that the sky is blue but she doesn't want you to go up there an spray paint it pink. She's just telling you because that is what girls do.
Sometimes she might be telling you as an excuse. She knows that you keep looking at her trying to figure out why she isn't having a good time. But she assumes that you are aware of what you are doing when, 80% of the time, you're not. You don't realize that you keep giving her that, "What's wrong?" look. So she just says, "My back hurts" in answer to the question you didn't even know that you were asking. So then, you have to realize that she is not asking for anything, she is just stating the obvious.
Girls say twice as many words as boys do in a day. I'm pretty sure that that is because they say most of the things that they are thinking about whereas boys wouldn't dare say everything they're thinking about. It's a basic difference in psychology.
Boys, you need to keep yourself from getting upset when your girlfriend doesn't seem to be having a good time. If you ask if there is anything you can do and there isn't, then just lead by example. Go have a good time and maybe she'll forget about what was bothering her. Otherwise, she'll tell you that she wants to do something else.
When girls say, "Jeez, my back/knees/head hurts so bad" the correct response is, "That sucks. Is there anything I can do?" The answer you will receive 90% of the time is "No."
So you're thinking, "Why the hell would she tell me her back hurts if she didn't want me to do anything about it?" Because if it comes to the front of her brain, she is going to say it. She doesn't ALWAYS have an agenda in saying something. It's an inane comment like, "Wow, the sky is blue today." She wants you to acknowlege that the sky is blue but she doesn't want you to go up there an spray paint it pink. She's just telling you because that is what girls do.
Sometimes she might be telling you as an excuse. She knows that you keep looking at her trying to figure out why she isn't having a good time. But she assumes that you are aware of what you are doing when, 80% of the time, you're not. You don't realize that you keep giving her that, "What's wrong?" look. So she just says, "My back hurts" in answer to the question you didn't even know that you were asking. So then, you have to realize that she is not asking for anything, she is just stating the obvious.
Girls say twice as many words as boys do in a day. I'm pretty sure that that is because they say most of the things that they are thinking about whereas boys wouldn't dare say everything they're thinking about. It's a basic difference in psychology.
Boys, you need to keep yourself from getting upset when your girlfriend doesn't seem to be having a good time. If you ask if there is anything you can do and there isn't, then just lead by example. Go have a good time and maybe she'll forget about what was bothering her. Otherwise, she'll tell you that she wants to do something else.