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So last night I was hanging out with my friend Tim and roommate Nick and the topic of girls came up (of course). Nick is a personal trainer/toolbag who's really into these "How to pick up any chick" things with that dude Mystery. So they start telling me all about how to properly talk to a girl at a bar, and that you're supposed to always talk to them as if you're on your way to something better, and you should make them think you're not at all interested in them because it'll drive them nuts, and just a bunch of crazy rules and guidelines.
But the over-arcing theme of the whole situation was summed up when Nick told me to "never make a girl feel good, because she'll lose interest in you immediately."
How did women let it get to the point that the only way to get a girl's interest is to treat her like garbage? And every girl says they want a guy that treats them nice or whatever, but I don't know anyone that really believes that nice guys get more girls than douchebags. Now granted, there is the idea that the only girls you get by being a douche are girls you wouldn't want to get with anyway, but I can't really support that fully. I know a LOT of nice girls that just wont give a guy the time of day unless he's a dick. I know it stems from "daddy issues" and the general love of a take-charge guy or whatever, but honestly... wtf?
I'm not personally bothered by it (mainly because I'm enough of a jerk to be ok) but i find it very sad that women not only live their lives in such a way, but that it's gotten so bad that men are actually STUDYING UP on how to be a jerk-off in the "most effective manner."
AdBusters this month had a fascinating article about how the male half of the human species is pretty much falling apart, and we have lower sperm counts, more damaged sperm, and generally less virility than our fathers did. The really interesting part of it for me though, was the fact that women had their "movement" many moons ago, and they reevaluated their place in society and the gender roles of males and females, but men have yet to do so in response. The fact is that if women now hold a different place in the life of the world, men must respond to this in order to truly find out who and what we are, and to successfully function in the current system.
It seems to me that men have decided to find new ways, to accomplish the same goals (i.e. being a douche is the "new" chivalry in that it gets you laid).
At what point will men truly step aside and find a place for themselves. 80% of the people laid off in the recent economic down-turn were men, which is in fact a negative side-effect of the inequality in pay for men in America. This means that there are a lot of men who aren't ABLE to fulfill their traditional role of the money-making-family-protecting alpha male. I'm holding out hope for these men to genuinely reassess their roles, and their ability to fulfill that role, but I don't know if it will happen.
"In affluent, industrialized nations, the birth of males has dropped every year for the past 30 years. Genital defects, learning disabilities, autism, ADD and a variety of other afflictions have all skyrocketed in males while remaining comparatively low in females. But perhaps the most telling indicator of the male plight comes down to that which is essentially synonymous with the pornographic: sperm. The average Gen Y bro has a sperm count that is 50 percent lower than his father’s and, of the few spermazoids he does have, 85 percent of them are genetically damaged. According to Dr. Fernando Marina, fertility expert at Barcelona’s CEFER Reproduction Institute, if this trend continues, all men will be infertile within 60 years." - AdBusters #83 "A New Aesthetic"
But the over-arcing theme of the whole situation was summed up when Nick told me to "never make a girl feel good, because she'll lose interest in you immediately."
How did women let it get to the point that the only way to get a girl's interest is to treat her like garbage? And every girl says they want a guy that treats them nice or whatever, but I don't know anyone that really believes that nice guys get more girls than douchebags. Now granted, there is the idea that the only girls you get by being a douche are girls you wouldn't want to get with anyway, but I can't really support that fully. I know a LOT of nice girls that just wont give a guy the time of day unless he's a dick. I know it stems from "daddy issues" and the general love of a take-charge guy or whatever, but honestly... wtf?
I'm not personally bothered by it (mainly because I'm enough of a jerk to be ok) but i find it very sad that women not only live their lives in such a way, but that it's gotten so bad that men are actually STUDYING UP on how to be a jerk-off in the "most effective manner."
AdBusters this month had a fascinating article about how the male half of the human species is pretty much falling apart, and we have lower sperm counts, more damaged sperm, and generally less virility than our fathers did. The really interesting part of it for me though, was the fact that women had their "movement" many moons ago, and they reevaluated their place in society and the gender roles of males and females, but men have yet to do so in response. The fact is that if women now hold a different place in the life of the world, men must respond to this in order to truly find out who and what we are, and to successfully function in the current system.
It seems to me that men have decided to find new ways, to accomplish the same goals (i.e. being a douche is the "new" chivalry in that it gets you laid).
At what point will men truly step aside and find a place for themselves. 80% of the people laid off in the recent economic down-turn were men, which is in fact a negative side-effect of the inequality in pay for men in America. This means that there are a lot of men who aren't ABLE to fulfill their traditional role of the money-making-family-protecting alpha male. I'm holding out hope for these men to genuinely reassess their roles, and their ability to fulfill that role, but I don't know if it will happen.
"In affluent, industrialized nations, the birth of males has dropped every year for the past 30 years. Genital defects, learning disabilities, autism, ADD and a variety of other afflictions have all skyrocketed in males while remaining comparatively low in females. But perhaps the most telling indicator of the male plight comes down to that which is essentially synonymous with the pornographic: sperm. The average Gen Y bro has a sperm count that is 50 percent lower than his father’s and, of the few spermazoids he does have, 85 percent of them are genetically damaged. According to Dr. Fernando Marina, fertility expert at Barcelona’s CEFER Reproduction Institute, if this trend continues, all men will be infertile within 60 years." - AdBusters #83 "A New Aesthetic"