angry

[deatherpoet]

I'm just really angry at my roommate right now. shes been so fucking selfish the last couple of days that its clogging my brain. i feel like punching her in the fucking face. maxx has been sick and all she can think about are stupid little things that are making her angry and taking it out on everyone else. Maxx had one of his diapers spilling

Comments

[cunticus]

When there's tension in the household, and communication problems, the best thing to do is write a note. She can't interrupt a note. It's a good way of getting these things out in the open and solving them because otherwise they'll seeth underneath the facade of pleasantries and the pressure will build.

sometimes

[mindbend]

I disagree. In most instances where a note is written the person will ( in my circumstances ) almost always take the offensive because you didn't have the 'balls' to say it to their face. It's a sign of disrespect. Even the most angry of people often complain that a note was unnecessary because they take things well. I'm not trying to say that writing a note is wrong or even inappropriate, but to say that caution should be used prior to writing.

Re: sometimes

[cunticus]

In what I said, it was implied that it was the appropriate thing to do in the event of communication problems. If you don't have such problems and you have the "balls" to speak about it, then it needn't be done. Her room mate doesn't sound like a good listener to me, her world is her own and Sandi obviously doesn't come into it.

Re: sometimes

[deatherpoet]

it depends what the note is about. if we've already discussed things kind of ,but right now I don't feel like much of my point went across.... i don't think she will take offence if i write something thats just an explanation of who i am. its not like im being passive aggressive about something..... but i do feel like im more courageous when i write about me than when i speak about me

[deatherpoet]

I eventually might have to just write her a letter because like you said... she can't interrupt that. Her world will only continue the way its always been... and I live partially in it so it's only right that we attempt to understand each others.... shes really open about how hers is but I can't really talk about mine without it being misinterpreted,... going somewhere completely different... or being interrupted. so, yeah