103: Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me A Match.
Dear Professor Snape,
Two weeks ago, my ex boyfriend got in touch with me. That first night, we talked on the phone for three hours. Then I went to see him at the apartment we got together three years ago. We've talked a few times since, we've hung out and went to the movies. I even rescued him from having to walk ten miles to get home. Dilemma? Our break up was brutal. I loathed him with ever inch of my being. Now, I don't care. I love him still, yes. However he is a dirt ball. The apartment is filthy, he doesn't give a damn about himself anymore, and he's gotten back into drugs.
I don't know if I should be the friend he needs right now, or if I should back away and let him destroy himself moreso than he has. I don't know if I should keep hating him or let him back in. It felt so nice to talk to him again, be near him. Is that the memories or is it genuine? I'm utterly confused and lost. Please help.
Sincerely,
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
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Are you a total idiot? Leave him the hell alone. Stop being an enabler - he has to fix himself. Don't HATE him, that takes more effort than he's worth. Just because you had a few laughs together doesn't mean you should go crawling back the second he says he's sorry.
But what if he IS sorry?
And what if he's not? I can scream all day long that I'm the queen of Nigeria, that doesn't make it true.
But what if he really needs a friend?
If he can afford drugs, he can certainly afford a therapist. Problem solved.
... Sometimes, you are really just no help at all.
Well, I don't see YOU solving any dilemmas here.
Two weeks ago, my ex boyfriend got in touch with me. That first night, we talked on the phone for three hours. Then I went to see him at the apartment we got together three years ago. We've talked a few times since, we've hung out and went to the movies. I even rescued him from having to walk ten miles to get home. Dilemma? Our break up was brutal. I loathed him with ever inch of my being. Now, I don't care. I love him still, yes. However he is a dirt ball. The apartment is filthy, he doesn't give a damn about himself anymore, and he's gotten back into drugs.
I don't know if I should be the friend he needs right now, or if I should back away and let him destroy himself moreso than he has. I don't know if I should keep hating him or let him back in. It felt so nice to talk to him again, be near him. Is that the memories or is it genuine? I'm utterly confused and lost. Please help.
Sincerely,
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
____________________&&&
Are you a total idiot? Leave him the hell alone. Stop being an enabler - he has to fix himself. Don't HATE him, that takes more effort than he's worth. Just because you had a few laughs together doesn't mean you should go crawling back the second he says he's sorry.
But what if he IS sorry?
And what if he's not? I can scream all day long that I'm the queen of Nigeria, that doesn't make it true.
But what if he really needs a friend?
If he can afford drugs, he can certainly afford a therapist. Problem solved.
... Sometimes, you are really just no help at all.
Well, I don't see YOU solving any dilemmas here.