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Alkmaar
Work
BDSM
Love
Livejournal/Twitter
Please read these instructions prior to usage of this post, or continue or your own risk. Instructions: reply to this meme by yelling "Words!" and I will give you five words that remind me of you. Then post them in your LJ and explain what they mean to you. My words given to my by shinycuba
Alkmaar
Although I do not have any extreme bond to Alkmaar, it is the city in which I was raised, and lived for the most part of my life. I have had to part with it for ten years, as my parents moved to a small village a few miles out of the city. At the age of seventeen I got an opportunity to move out, and took it. Ever since, I've been living right in the city centre. Although I have no intention to leave just yet, I will have to find new accommodation in a year's time, and whether or not we'll be staying will hugely depend on what's available by then. In a few years I do intend to move to Berlin, leaving not only Alkmaar behind, but the Netherlands.
Over the years, I've got to know Alkmaar as a city 'stuck' in between the busyness of city life and the slower pace of rural life. Due to its vicinity to Amsterdam with excellent connections, many people living in the city work in 'the big city', or Amsterdam. Obviously people tend to take part of Amsterdam culture home. However, Alkmaar is surrounded by rural areas, and functions as regional centre for many surrounding villages. This ensures a daily influx of farmers and country people to the city, also taking along their 'culture'. The annual cattle market, where farmers buy and sell cattle, and the touristy weekly cheese market are examples of that. It's this mix of things that I've grown to like and makes the city stand out from many other cities in the country.
Work
Although I do not especially love the work I'm doing - assisting manager in a convenience store at the train station - I do tend to be a perfectionist. And it's getting things from acceptable to perfect that makes it sort of a challenge, although I am said to be one of the fastest at my branch. Whenever someone takes over after I've worked a shift, I'm always told they're surprised I finished all kinds of stuff, as others never get around to doing that. Such remarks make it clear I should be changing jobs, and I hope to find a new job within a few months, giving me a new challenge.
BDSM
BDSM has always been, and will always be part of my life. Although it wasn't until I entered the world of internet around the age of 15 I figured out what bdsm was, and internet certainly made the love for it stronger, I don't think it's something I stumbled upon, but rather, something that's always been there. Plain, normal sex doesn't usually turn me on, but seeing a gorgeous woman bound... ;-)
And although many people say bdsm is not all about whips, pain and leather outfits, and it isn't necessarily, I have to admit I like most of these. I like whips, pain (mostly so inflicted upon others ;-)) and not leather, but rubber outfits. With my love for rubber and accessories some might think my likings are a bit extreme, but on the other hand, I do stay away from many forms of 'edge play', including needles, knives and such. Experimenting, trying new things and being open-minded to things that may seem silly or weird, but may turn out to expose you to a nice feeling from the inside are keywords to me.
Love
Another thing on which I might differ from most of the people, is love. On the other hand, research shows the majority of human population on the world is polygamous, whereas it's just the western world which sees monogamy as one of its key values. While I've never been too good at retaining a relationship, with cy-v things somehow changed. Friends could not believe I still hadn't broken up with her after a year, and now, over four years later, we're still together. Important in that has been the fact our relationship hasn't been exclusive. With Depeche Mode's Freelove as 'our' song, we have always agreed upon the fact we were allowed to find certain things outside of our relationship. With cy-v being bisexual, and me craving for a sub-girl of my own, we have both always been on the lookout.
With hecubah, we both found the missing piece. Being both female and, after a while, submissive she was the perfect match for the both of us. And our three-way relationship has lasted for over a year already, even though the distance between us (a 3-hour train ride) did not make things easier. In a few weeks, that distance will be reduced to just one hour, and I think, and hope, that will only strengthen our relationship. With her filling the 'gap', the relationship has actually become 'exclusive'. It's the three of us now, and that's fine the way it is. Although I would possible someday like to experiment with someone else, I would never jeopardize what I have now for that. And besides, I have not felt the urge to go beyond the three of us anyway. ;-)
Livejournal/Twitter
In communicating with the world I combine these two. As things happen, I tweet it. Preferably with a picture. Later, I sum these things up on Livejournal. With more details, backgrounds and the pictures I tweeted. Twitter is the easiest of the two. You write a tweet in a few seconds and done, whereas a proper LJ update might take me an hour. It's this 'time investment' that makes me break with Livejournal from time to time, as I get the impression the things I write may not be interesting to others, or aren't read at all. Twitter, on the contrary, uses the spare moments you'll always have in life, waiting for a traffic light, waiting for your train. I am trying to keep up with both, though.