When theres something like a stone in the shoe...
It keeps niggling because you just can't decide weather you are right or if you are missing something.
About four years ago I became friends with a person (known to some on this list).
I thought he was a bit eccentric but hey, thats sometimes a plus in friends. He had irritating ways about him but again, you let those go in the interests of friendship - especially as this one formed part of a group with whom I became friends and which contained some good games (rgp table tops).
Then out of the blue this person has an outburst on a forum we use in which he declared he was tired of my constant insults and "though I make allowances for women" he was cutting all links and having no more contact with me.
At first I thought it was a joke but it soon became clear he was deadly serious. I could find no instance, checking back, of my treating him any differently to any of my other friends or any differently in recent times to how I had done throughout the friendship.
In fact, on reflection there were many occasions over the last year when he had been openly patronising, insensitive and insulting to me - physically insulting on one occasion where I, with my bad hip, fell flat on my face in the street because he refused to help me and didn't even offer to help me up.
My confusion has been further compounded after Consequences. Although he withdrew from a game which had a character written for him, on the pretext that he could not play a 30 player LARP in a big room with me, he had no problem in playing two table top lodge games with me and and less than four others. He sat drinking in the bar with me and another person and yet on the previous evening he could not sit and drink with a group of eight people who thought they were also his friends, because I was there - he sat round the corner on his own.
I've condensed this, there is more but am I alone in thinking this is not normal behaviour? Childish, obviously, but is there more behind it? Could this person have some sort of serious social or psychological problem? I'm doing my best to remain friends with the rest of the group because I don't want to compromise ongoing games but I really don't want to continue with this ridiculous situation. I can't beleive he thinks this sort of behaviour is acceptable and even though I am a beleiver in straight talking I don't think anything I say will have any effect on him.
About four years ago I became friends with a person (known to some on this list).
I thought he was a bit eccentric but hey, thats sometimes a plus in friends. He had irritating ways about him but again, you let those go in the interests of friendship - especially as this one formed part of a group with whom I became friends and which contained some good games (rgp table tops).
Then out of the blue this person has an outburst on a forum we use in which he declared he was tired of my constant insults and "though I make allowances for women" he was cutting all links and having no more contact with me.
At first I thought it was a joke but it soon became clear he was deadly serious. I could find no instance, checking back, of my treating him any differently to any of my other friends or any differently in recent times to how I had done throughout the friendship.
In fact, on reflection there were many occasions over the last year when he had been openly patronising, insensitive and insulting to me - physically insulting on one occasion where I, with my bad hip, fell flat on my face in the street because he refused to help me and didn't even offer to help me up.
My confusion has been further compounded after Consequences. Although he withdrew from a game which had a character written for him, on the pretext that he could not play a 30 player LARP in a big room with me, he had no problem in playing two table top lodge games with me and and less than four others. He sat drinking in the bar with me and another person and yet on the previous evening he could not sit and drink with a group of eight people who thought they were also his friends, because I was there - he sat round the corner on his own.
I've condensed this, there is more but am I alone in thinking this is not normal behaviour? Childish, obviously, but is there more behind it? Could this person have some sort of serious social or psychological problem? I'm doing my best to remain friends with the rest of the group because I don't want to compromise ongoing games but I really don't want to continue with this ridiculous situation. I can't beleive he thinks this sort of behaviour is acceptable and even though I am a beleiver in straight talking I don't think anything I say will have any effect on him.