Houses

[days_unfolding]

I'm dubbing the Urbana house as the "pretty good house". It's nice and I see why I liked it when I rented it, but it's not magical like my mom's house. I made a list of pros and cons for each house.

Urbana House
Pros:
I can keep my therapist. This is a big one because I had a hard time finding a therapist who's simpatico.
It's in Urbana, which I

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[sweetmeow]

I recognized this as I was reading, but I didn't want to state it to put ideas into your mind that might not be there. You must see it for yourself and realize the strength of your attraction to your mom's house. I saw it -- from the very beginning!

My mom died in 2013, and my childhood home -- where Mom lived until the last 6 months when she was in a nursing facility -- has been sold. It's kind of surreal and a little sad when that happens, but the sadness of seeing it go didn't give me any desire to purchase it. It wasn't worth *that* much to me. I had made new, stronger connections with the house(s) and communities I live in now. (And my husband did NOT want it!)

However, I did want the home to "live on" where another family made memories in that house, just like we did a generation ago. But - that was not to be. My mom's house (and the house behind our house) was purchased by the Funeral Home owners who live next door to the house. Right now, both houses are rented to families, but the funeral home is biding its time for when they can change the zoning, enabling them to build a larger parking lot for their funeral home. When that happens, the houses will be knocked to the ground, and a parking lot built. Sad.

So - even if you don't want the house for yourself, strong feelings are left behind.