[49.5] How close have you come to breaking up with your partner?
I didn't just come close, I did it.
Almost everyone who was there at the time thought it was justified. I didn't feel like I had a choice. It was either break up, or live with Peter making all of the decisions on what I could handle and what I couldn't. I didn't think he was going to change, and I was hurt. Our wedding day was ruined. I took that as a sign that maybe it wasn't supposed to happen. Love is important, but it's not the only thing that keeps a relationship going. I know that, Peter knows that, and at the time, I didn't think either one of us knew how to work out our problems.
I left. I stayed with Bruce for a little while, which would have helped me get my head on straight, except it didn't, because Peter didn't really stay away. And then when I tried to talk to him, he sounded even worse than I felt, so I went to see him. That didn't go very well. Neither did me sleeping with my fall back guy and watching Miles throw him out of my house. Neither did a date with a pretty great guy. I think as screwed up as we can get together, Peter and I are even worse when we're apart.
We're married now, and I think that changes some things. I'm not just going to leave when I'm hurt, but I know he'll hurt me again, just like he knows that I'll hurt him. We don't mean to, we're just...not perfect and we don't always learn from our mistakes right away. I almost pushed him away again a few months ago, because I thought it would be better for him. I stopped myself and told him the truth. He still freaked out at first, but at least we didn't break up.
We're still learning how to fix things together, instead of making decisions on our own. It's hard because sometimes I'll think I know exactly what needs to be done, and Peter will disagree with that. Or the other way around. And I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. I don't want it to. We'd be pretty boring if we agreed with each other all of the time, even if it made our lives easier.
I think we like being complicated. We both like a challenge. I mean, there are some things in Peter's life that I could definitely do without, but overall it's worth it. We're happier together and we'll keep working to stay that way.
Sasha Hoffman
Original Character
430 words
Partner: mybrothershadow
Almost everyone who was there at the time thought it was justified. I didn't feel like I had a choice. It was either break up, or live with Peter making all of the decisions on what I could handle and what I couldn't. I didn't think he was going to change, and I was hurt. Our wedding day was ruined. I took that as a sign that maybe it wasn't supposed to happen. Love is important, but it's not the only thing that keeps a relationship going. I know that, Peter knows that, and at the time, I didn't think either one of us knew how to work out our problems.
I left. I stayed with Bruce for a little while, which would have helped me get my head on straight, except it didn't, because Peter didn't really stay away. And then when I tried to talk to him, he sounded even worse than I felt, so I went to see him. That didn't go very well. Neither did me sleeping with my fall back guy and watching Miles throw him out of my house. Neither did a date with a pretty great guy. I think as screwed up as we can get together, Peter and I are even worse when we're apart.
We're married now, and I think that changes some things. I'm not just going to leave when I'm hurt, but I know he'll hurt me again, just like he knows that I'll hurt him. We don't mean to, we're just...not perfect and we don't always learn from our mistakes right away. I almost pushed him away again a few months ago, because I thought it would be better for him. I stopped myself and told him the truth. He still freaked out at first, but at least we didn't break up.
We're still learning how to fix things together, instead of making decisions on our own. It's hard because sometimes I'll think I know exactly what needs to be done, and Peter will disagree with that. Or the other way around. And I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. I don't want it to. We'd be pretty boring if we agreed with each other all of the time, even if it made our lives easier.
I think we like being complicated. We both like a challenge. I mean, there are some things in Peter's life that I could definitely do without, but overall it's worth it. We're happier together and we'll keep working to stay that way.
Sasha Hoffman
Original Character
430 words
Partner: mybrothershadow