I have a question for you all. (PLEASE RESPOND)

[melaniejaye]

Whats everyones thoughts about a femal@e proposing to her s/o?

Edit: this is a male female relationship in which the male would usually propose to the female. The female is the one who would like to propose.

Now however if the LGBT community is in here, when you plan on getting married how do you choose who will propose? I would assume it would be

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[scien]

I'm a woman in a relationship with a woman, luckily neither of us want to get married. I think ultimately it comes down to the couple's preferences. It's something you can discuss, so you both know how the other feels - e.g. I do/do not want to get engaged soon, I would/would not want to be proposed to or do the proposing, and so on. Then you can act accordingly.

In one couple I know, my friend (female) and her girlfriend discussed it, they knew they both wanted to get married in the next couple of years, but my friend's girlfriend was hesitant to make it official because of some family stuff. So it was on her to propose when she felt ready, which she eventually did.

I also know another couple where the woman was anti marriage and asked the guy not to propose or force the issue. They went about their lives like any married couple (house, kids, etc) but without doing the wedding thing. Eventually (when the kids were like 5 and 7) she decided well at this point, why not, took him out for a romantic weekend away and proposed to him. It was a complete surprise apparently but obviously she knew he'd be into it.

I think you did the right thing by checking with your SO! He either really doesn't like the idea of being proposed to, or he wants to make sure it goes on his timeline. Of course, that's not necessarily the end of the discussion, your wants and needs are just as important!