The importance of the past as it relates to marriage
My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years, yet her past seems to always be an issue. Now I could sit here and discuss the issues that have come from her past and the impact it has on our marriage, but that would last forever. So today I'll ask for advice about one specific thing. She has had a very difficult time telling me the truth about anything in her life before me. Usually what will happen is she will tell me one thing, then I find out through the grapevine that it wasn't true. So for today, I will mention just one issue that is eating at me. Prior to meeting me, she had a boyfriend. Now she had been married before as well, but this boyfriend, she was with him before hand and after the marriage. I just found out that after we were engaged, she had bought my wedding dress too, that she was telling him she was still in love with him and wanted to be with him. That still bothers me to this day. Should I be bothered by it? When I ask her why all that happened, she just says "I don't know." I find that to be incredibly unfair. Do you guys have any ideas on situations like this one?